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Dating- What Kind Of A Person Will Be Right For You?

2007-05-25T02:23:00.000-07:00

Part 1
All of us who are active on the dating scene have many questions in our mind. What kind of person should I date? How do I behave during a date? What is the result of my date? Did my date like me? Is he/she honest in what they say or I should be careful? The mind gets bombarded with questions. The situation becomes so trouble some for some of us that we get tired and say- no more dating for me.

We date a person because we are looking for a partner. Many of us may not marry the partner but we still look for long-term relationship. For that we must begin with asking about the kind of person who will be right for us. Otherwise the whole purpose is lost. Let us look at the qualities we must look for in our prospective partner.

Similarities in thinking, attraction towards each other, common values and political views and same approach towards various life situations are some of the areas we must investigate before we zero upon a person.

Attraction towards each other- if you are not attracted to the other person, nothing will work. Attraction can be of much types- physical attraction, attraction towards intellectual ability, attraction to the personality and so on. Analyze your attraction and decide if that will last for at least five years. If you think that you will no more be attracted to the person after some months, do not go ahead. Many times we are very much attracted towards a person. But after sometime the attraction wanes. This happens with physical attraction most often. You like somebody's features and body build. After some moths, you find nothing new or attractive in that body. Why that happens is a subject for psychiatrists and psychologists to decide.

In this part, we have looked at attraction. In the second part we will look more at attraction and other aspects of a long-term relationship.

Part 2
In the last article, we studied about what qualities we should look for in our dating partner. We also discussed about attraction mainly physical and how it may wane after some days. In this article, we will discuss more about attraction.

We understand that we get attracted to each other for different reasons. It may be- physical attraction, attraction towards intellectual ability, attraction to the personality and so on. We know that if physical attraction is the main criteria of our choice, we should not go ahead. That attraction may wane after some months. Let us now talk about intellectual attraction.

Intellectual ability of a high quality attracts many of us. We are amazed by the quick wit, knowledge and intelligence of a person. We think that such a person would make a great partner in life. What is better than constant intellectual stimulation? But that may not be true at all. In fact the relationship may fail badly if the gap between intellectual ability of both partners is high.

The person who is intellectually superior to you may tolerate and rather enjoy talking to you for some months. Such persons even adopt the role of a teacher and guide. But after some time they get bored. They look for somebody who matches them in intelligence. At the same time, being with a intellectual may cause inferiority complex in you after some time. The gap also makes communication very difficult in some situations. Are you looking for somebody who will dominate you with his/her intellectual capability? Are you looking for somebody who may laugh at you at times? Are you looking at somebody who may make fun of you? I do not think that any of us wants that. In the next article we will look at intellectual attraction in more detail and also talk about attraction to personality.

By CD Mohatta

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Step Forward for Better Loving

2007-01-31T21:23:00.000-08:00

We all deserve an amazing sex life packed with passion and sensual fun. The 7th of January saw the launch of the Free Sex Tips Community, a community of lust thirsty members who are all making a stand for a saucier sex life in 2007 by receiving free sex tips to boost their lovemaking skills.

The first seductive sex tip was 'Sitophilia - Sexy food fun' (which can be viewed online at the web address below.)

Sex Tip extract
Insufficient foreplay is often the main factor of uninspiring sex. A quick feel and a squeeze just aren’t enough to fan the flames of sexual passion. Boost your extended foreplay with these delicious top tips that will get you feeling sexy intimate and oh so sticky. The Karma Sutra an ancient lovemaking text highlighted the importance of food, lovemaking and intimacy, so ransack the kitchen cupboards and have some sexy fun.

The tips and advice are divided into three categories, 'Beginners', 'Advanced Lovers' and 'Outrageously Kinky Lovers'. We are not all at the same point in our sexual journey; inexperienced couples need very different tips and suggestions from a couple with a more confident prowess. However, members are able to read all levels for any particular sex tip because members may feel more confident in some sexual areas and want to take the passion up a gear.

Members also have the opportunity send in a quick sex tip. This may be in response to a current tip or it could be a suggestion of something completely unrelated, maybe a of something new they tried last week. Members sex tips may be posted during the coming months. Use the online form to send us tips that you have found sinfully successful and watch out for your five minutes of fame when we publish your tip!

Join the community today and sign up for a sexier 2007 where you increase your passionate portfolio with some lustful sex tips. It's a free community so what do you have to loose except for your innocence?

By S. Roberts

S. Roberts writes for http://www.sextoytesters.co.uk/ an adult information website. Visit the Free Sex Tips Community at http://www.sextoytesters.co.uk/free-sex-tips-community.shtml and sign up for a saucier 2007. If you would like to contrite to the community get in touch using the online form. Step forward for better loving today.
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The Hidden Effects Of Divorce On Children

2007-01-11T21:15:00.000-08:00

These days, it is hard to come by an individual who does not know someone who has been divorced, or who has not been divorced themselves. In Hollywood, divorce is seemingly becoming a common occurrence, while paving the way for a society where we're not only getting married later in life, but also searching for an almost unrealistic level of happiness in our marriage.

Many couples considering divorce refuse to believe that divorce can have a negative effect on their children. But many studies have been conducted that prove otherwise.

A long term study released in 2002 by the Institute for American Values found that “unhappily married adults who divorced were no more likely to report emotional or psychological improvements than those who stayed married.

According to this study, divorce does in fact NOT improve your emotional health. I think it would be safe to assume that this is due to the stress and financial burden divorce inflicts upon couples.

Here's another fact you might not know...

The Institute for American Values study found that almost eight out of 10 couples who avoided divorce were happily married five years later. Surprising, isn't it?

Here's another fact...

Half of all American children will witness the breakup of a parent’s marriage. Of these, close to half will also see the breakup of a parent’s second marriage.” (Furstenberg, Peterson, Nord, and Zill, “Life Course”)

Many couples divorce, and then remarry without knowing the true cause of their marriage problems in the first marriage. This is why the second marriage divorce rate is even higher than that of the first marriage!

Here's are some statistics specifically about the effects of divorce on children...

- Studies in the early 1980’s showed that children in repeat divorces earned lower grades and their peers rated them as less pleasant to be around. (Andrew J. Cherlin, Marriage, Divorce, Remarriage –Harvard University Press 1981)

- Forty percent of children growing up in America today are being raised without their fathers. (Wade, Horn and Busy, “Fathers, Marriage and Welfare Reform” Hudson Institute Executive Briefing, 1997)

- Teenagers in single-parent families and in blended families are three times more likely to need psychological help within a given year. (Peter Hill “Recent Advances in Selected Aspects of Adolescent Development” Journal of Child Psychology and Psychiatry 1993)

- Compared to children from homes disrupted by death, children from divorced homes have more psychological problems. (Robert E. Emery, Marriage, Divorce and Children’s Adjustment” Sage Publications, 1988)

That statistic is truly amazing, isn't it? But let me continue on...here are are some more shocking statistics on the effect of divorce on children...

- Children living with both biological parents are 20 to 35 percent more physically healthy than children from broken homes. (Dawson, “Family Structure and Children’s Health and Well-being” Journal of Marriage and the Family)

- Most victims of child molestation come from single-parent households or are the children of drug ring members. (Los Angles Times 16 September 1985 The Garbage Generation)

- A Child in a female-headed home is 10 times more likely to be beaten or murdered. (The Legal Beagle, July 1984, from “The Garbage Generation”)

- The study of children six years after a parental marriage breakup revealed that even after all that time, these children tended to be “lonely, unhappy, anxious and insecure". (Wallerstein “The Long-Term Effects of Divorce on Children” Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 1991)

- Children of divorce are four times more likely to report problems with peers and friends than children whose parents have kept their marriages intact. (Tysse, Burnett, “Moral Dilemmas of Early Adolescents of Divorced and Intact Families. Journal of Early Adolescence 1993)

- Children of divorce, particularly boys, tend to be more aggressive toward others than those children whose parents did not divorce. (Emery, “Marriage, Divorce and Children’s Adjustment, 1988)

- Children of divorce are at a greater risk to experience injury, asthma, headaches and speech defects than children whose parents have remained married. (Dawson, “Family Structure and Children’s Health and Well Being” National Health Interview Survey on Child Health, Journal of Marriage and the Family)

- People who come from broken homes are almost twice as likely to attempt suicide than those who do not come from broken homes. (Velez-Cohen, “Suicidal Behavior and Ideation in a Community Sample of Children” Journal of the American Academy of Child and Adolescent Psychiatry 1988)

- Children of divorced parents are roughly two times more likely to drop out of high school than their peers who benefit from living with parents who did not divorce. (McLanahan, Sandefur, “Growing Up With a Single Parent: What Hurts, What Helps” Harvard University Press 1994). Seventy percent of long-term prison inmates grew up in broken homes. (Horn, Bush, “Fathers, Marriage and Welfare Reform)

- Following divorce, children are fifty percent more likely to develop health problems than two parent families. (Angel, Worobey, “Single Motherhood and Children’s Health”)

- Of all children born to married parents this year, fifty percent will experience the divorce of their parents before they reach their 18th birthday. (Fagan, Fitzgerald, Rector, “The Effects of Divorce On America)

I hope these statistics may eventually cause you (or your spouse) to seriously consider all the consequences of divorce before you make that final decision.

Based on these statistics, it becomes obvious that children need stable, loving homes with both mom and dad. There is, of course an exception to every rule, and in this case it is households where abuse is taking place. Children should under no circumstances remain in an abusive atmosphere that is unsafe for them.

But if there is no abuse taking place in your marriage and the two of you have simply "grown apart",or fell out of love, I urge you to seek out help for your marriage before you give up completely. For your children's sake, even if you're feeling hopeless right now, get help for your marriage today.

By Larry Bilotta
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What Will Turn Men Off in Marriage

2007-01-09T20:18:00.000-08:00

How do you keep the passion burning even after you’ve said “I do”?

Marriage should be a happy time for a couple. You’ve survived the rigors of dating and courtship. Now it’s time to reap the rewards and spend a pleasant life together. But many couples find marriage to be a difficult adjustment to make. There’s a “honeymoon” phase, and then life settles into a routine. Husbands and wives start to irk one another. The passion of the early marriage starts to fade away.

Can this be stopped? Of course it can. With some work and communication, two people who love each other can continue to love being married to each other forever. As women, there are certain things we can avoid, things that are instant turn offs to men in marriage. Here are five.

1. Complaining, nagging, and criticizing. This is always at the top of the list in surveys of married men when asked what their wives do that bothers them. As much as he loves you, he wants to be his own man, too. And let’s face it, no one, male or female, likes being picked at.

Of course, we don’t usually see our gentle reminders not to leave his socks on the floor as “picking.” If he would just DO it, we wouldn’t have to keep mentioning it. But to him, it sounds like you’re harping, nagging about the same thing over and over again. And it drives him crazy.

So what to do? Men’s minds are analytical. They like to solve problems. So make your suggestions in the form of solutions rather than complaints. Instead of saying, “I hate it when you leave your socks on the floor,” say, “It will be much easier for me to do laundry if your socks are in the hamper instead of on the floor, sweetie.” See? The first was a complaint; the second was a solution. Surely he can’t fail to see the logic in it, and if he forgets after that, you’ll know it’s an honest forgetting, not laziness or spite. And since you love him, you can forgive that.

2. Trying to control him. This goes along with #1. Men like to be independent. They like their buddies, they like their football games, they like their poker nights with the guys. But you like him to be home with you. Who’s right?

This is one where you may have to make some compromises. There’s no reason he shouldn’t be allowed to hang out with his friends and do whatever it is those guys do when they get together -- provided he’s still being a good husband and father too, of course. If he’s out EVERY night with the guys, then maybe there’s a problem. But if it’s once a week or so, and he has a fun time, then what’s the harm? It’s selfish to insist he stay home with you all the time.

To compensate for it, you can arrange activities for just the two of you that go beyond just staying home and having a normal dull evening. Make sure the weekends are full of couples-only activities, or plan specific “date nights” once a week. That way, you can make sure you’re getting a special evening with him at least as often as his friends get one.

3. Withholding sex out of anger or spite. Your husband shouldn’t expect you to have sex whenever and wherever he wants to. If he’s a typical man, he wants to have sex more or less constantly, so it’s not really feasible. But he shouldn’t have to contend with you using sex as a weapon against him, either.

Sex is the most intimate part of a relationship, and some consider it the most sacred. Either partner using it as a way of controlling or hurting the other one cheapens it. If you’re angry with your husband, talk to him about it, calmly and rationally. Don’t withhold sex and then make him guess why. Those kinds of games are beneath you.

4. Letting your emotions control your thinking. It’s a scientific fact that men solve problems analytically while women solve problems emotionally. It’s also a fact that that difference is what drives both genders the craziest.

Still, that doesn’t mean you should let your emotions dictate everything you say or do. It doesn’t make any sense to refuse to go to a party with him tonight because he failed to notice you got your haircut earlier today. That’s emotion talking. When you feel yourself getting emotional, that’s fine -- you’re a woman; emotions are part of who you are. The trick is to avoid making decisions when you’re in that state. Wait till you’ve calmed down again and become your normal self.

5. Letting yourself go physically. This is a touchy subject because it usually happens to both spouses. You’re both so busy with work, home and the kids that you stop exercising and get out of shape. But it’s men who are more likely to complain about it.

One solution is to make it a joint effort. As you notice yourself slipping into poor eating habits and zero exercise, talk to your husband. Suggest the two of you take up jogging together, or go for walks after dinner, or join a gym together. He’ll see you’re making an effort to maintain the lovely figure he fell in love with, and you can keep him from becoming a couch potato, too. Plus, any time you spend together is going to strengthen your relationship.

It’s tragic to for small things to split marriages apart, but it happens all the time. There’s no reason to let it happen to you. Remember that you love each other and do what you can to keep the fires burning.

By Cucan Pemo

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Romance Your Wife - Ask Her Out On A Romantic Date

2007-01-09T20:13:00.000-08:00

If you want to romance your wife, think about how you won her heart in the first place. Your romantic relationship may have started out when you called her and asked her out on a date. When you went out for the first time, you were sweet, romantic and you tried hard to impress her. She apparently enjoyed your loving attention, because she ended up marrying you. If you want to romance your wife, it is time to start dating her again.

Before you start, do a little research. What do you think your wife would like to do on a romantic date? If you decide to go to dinner and a movie, what restaurant do you think she would enjoy? What movie has she been wanting to see? If your wife enjoys a certain type of restaurant, ask your friends and coworkers for recommendations. They may also have ideas for a really good movie.

After you’ve decided on the plans for your romantic date, call her several days in advance and ask her out. When you call her, act like you are asking her out for a first date. For example:

Jack: Hi Jane?

Jane: Yes?

Jack: Hi, this is Jack Johnson. Jane, I’ve really enjoyed the time we’ve spent together and I was wondering if you would be interested in going out this weekend?Jane: Jack? You mean like on a date?

Jack: Yes, I thought we could both enjoy some time together.

Jane: Why that does sound nice, what did you have in mind?

Jack: There’s a new restaurant on Fifth Avenue that I have heard good things about. I thought we could have dinner there and then see “Romance Never Dies” at the movie theater.

Jane: Well Jack, it sounds like you have this all planned out. That sounds wonderful. I’m free Saturday night.

Jack: Saturday night it is. I’ll look forward to it!

Jane: So will I!

When the big day comes, act like it’s your first date. Get your car washed, select some nice clothes to wear and shower and shave just before your date. If you’re wife asks what you’re doing, tell her you have a hot date tonight. When it is time for your date, pull the car out front. Get out of the car and knock on the front door. When your wife answers the door, greet her and ask her if she is ready for your romantic date. When you walk her to the car, be sure to open the car door for her. Throughout your date, work hard to try to impress her, just as you would on a first date. When you arrive home after the date, walk around the car and open the car door for her. Walk her to the door. When you get to the porch, take her hands in yours and tell her that you had a very nice time and that you hope that you can do it again some time soon. Then, end your date with a sweet, romantic goodnight kiss.

If you want to romance your wife, never stop dating her.

By Tomothy Mahar
Timothy Mahar runs the website RomanceForEveryone.com which includes romantic ideas and a collection of romantic love letters.

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Simple Secrets To Enhance Your Breast & Improve Breast Health

2006-12-12T23:05:00.000-08:00

Simple secrets to improve your breast health, and enhance your breast at the same time! Medical experts recommend the following measures to best protect your breasts while maximizing your overall health:

Exercise - Find physical activities you enjoy doing, then do them on a regular basis. Make exercise a fun part of your daily routine. Exercise helps to firm up your breast, making them perkier, and more shapy.

Avoid excessive drinking of alcoholic beverages - Some studies indicate there may be a link between drinking alcohol and an increase risk for breast cancer. Occasional red / white wine is fine or rather it benefits your health.

Practice breast self massage as well as using the spa service -Use warmed oil to touch your breast gently while in the shower or with your partner. ANBES breast massage oil is ideal if you want your breast to feel smooth and silky. It furthers help in preventing wrinkles / lighten stretch marks. This will help to enhance your breast too, as it helps to bring nutrients to your breasts due to improved blood circulation.

Put on underwear that is comfortable, natural fiber (i.e. cotton). Wearing bras that have under wires or that are strapless will push the breast up and/or make red marks weaken supporting muscles and constrict lymph tissue. If they are worn often or for long periods, toxins will build up in your breast tissue.

Eat a little of soy-based products, such as soy milk, tofu, and tempeh regularly can help blocking the tendency for breast tissues to bond with extra estrogens that can cause disorder in healthy the functioning of breast tissue. And it can give your breast the right nutrients to develop.

Send optimistic messages to your breasts. Breasts are not time bombs. Stride out in confidence. Hypnotherapy is probably one of the most effective ways to achieve this as it can help to release conflicts, depression, blocks and illness between your mind and body. Hypnosis has proven to enhance one's breast size.

Use hormone-free contraception - Try not to use the pill for long term and synthetic hormone therapies when necessary. A number of natural substitutes to hormone therapies are emerging on the market.

Sleep in total darkness. Your body gets deeper, more curing sleep in the dark of night.

Enjoy nurturing yourself. You need to massage your breasts and/or pamper yourself with a massage or your favorite spa treatment. It is a MUST survival skill. Remember, it helps to bring nutrients to your breasts due to improved blood circulation.

By Julie Walker

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How To Make Your Relationship Stronger Once You Get Older

2006-11-28T15:00:00.000-08:00

How was the honeymoon? I hope it was great. Now, after you got married, you will have more chance to get to know your partner closer. Isn't that the thing we have to do before we get married? Well,...the answer is yes or no. And this is the reason why divorce rate never get any better.

To get to know your partner better, you should:

1. Always have open communication to each other

2. Trust each other

3. Share the burden

4. Share your interest

Making a marriage last takes work and many couples simply just grow apart. This issue is very common in couples that marry young, and it is easy to understand. At age eighteen or twenty one, you are certainly a very different person than you will be at age 35.

When you are young, your interests and direction are still evolving. And, when that evolution begins to slow and the couple find themselves in their thirties or forties, they may suddenly discover that they have grown apart.

If you find yourself approaching middle age (35 to 45 ) with little in common with your spouse, you may feel like strangers. Maybe you’ve run out of things to talk about – other than your children – or you find yourself alone on a Sunday morning, trying to remember what to say.

One thing that helps keep couples together is to have common interests or hobbies. It is a disaster if you don't share the same hobby. You like fishing while your wife like shopping. Your wife say it is better to buy fish from the fish market. However, this can be compromised and you should make it work. For example, if both of you like sports, but you don’t have a sport in common. Perhaps you bowl and you work out at the gym, and your wife runs. So, you are both in good physical condition and you both like to be active. If you both like music and there is one kind that you both like, buy tickets to a concert and go see the artist.

There are small things that can bond partners together to make the marriage even stronger. Let's do it, shall we?

By Simon

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What has a Monk Got to Do With Breast Enhancement?

2006-11-27T16:52:00.000-08:00

One may wonder, or even find it bizarre to relate a monk, and breast enhancement together...Well, it happen unintentionally, at least for the monk. Here's the full story.

Source: Bangkok Post Newspaper'white kwao kreu hit the news headlines again when doctors identified that it enlarged the breasts of a monk who regularly consumed the herb. White kwao kreu is believed to contain the female hormone oestrogen while the red kwaao khruea is believed to stimulate the male hormone ...'

Can not imagine? Well, that's beside the point. This discovery by the monk means good news for ladies (and special men) who want to enlarge their breasts naturally. White Kwao Kreu has proven to work on a man, and there is high chances that it will work for ladies.

What is white kwao kreu? And how does it helps in breast enhancement?

White kwao kreu, also known as Pueraria Mirifica or "Kwao Kreu Kao", are commonly found in the north, the west and the northeast of Thailand at the altitude of 300 to 800 metres above sea level. Woman in the rural communities of Thailand have used this tuberous roots effectively as rejuvenating folk medicine for well over a hundreds years before it become well known and received much attention from Thai and foreign scientist, especially the Japanese.

Most of the kwao kreu processed by the Japanese are made into medicines and cosmetics commonly used for improving the skin, hair and firming the breasts.

This herb is known to ...

1. Grow hair, strengthen and darken existing ones
2. Help improve complexion and remove wrinkles
3. Improves eyesight
4. Increase energy and vigor leading to more reflexive body movements
5. Including breast enhancement.

A woman's body will produce hormones known as estrogens during puberty. This hormone determines the size, shape and fullness of a woman's breasts. Lower levels of these hormones due to lack of nutrition will result in smaller less developed breasts.

Phytoestrogens, which are "estrogens" commonly found in certain plants and herbs, is known to stimulate your body to produce new breast tissue growth, resulting in bigger, firmer and fuller breasts. Many clinical studies have shown that it have positive effects like lowering the incidence of female related cancer and promote hormone balance.

Pueraria Mirifica not only contains the phytoestrogens needed to stimulate breast development, it contains the best phytoestrogens.

In 1940, in a protected biotechnology laboratory, a group of German scientist successfully isolated the phytoestrogen - Miroestrol from the root of Pueraria Mirifica. But, this herb is mistakenly reported then as Butea Superba. It was later on classified as a new plant called Pueraria Mirifica. After another 60 years, in year 2000, another phytoestrogen - deoxymiroestrol is isolated from the root of Pueraria Mirifica.

"Miroestrol and Deoxymiroestrol " is very different from other phytoestrogen, as it posses highest estrogenic activity among the known phyto-estrogens due to structural similarity to estradiol, (Estradiol is the main human estrogen which can be found in all women who are at the stage of nursing baby (Lactating); as you may notice that all women who are in this stage, their breast will enlarge and gain firmness for feeding purpose.

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Clinical Studies:

Chlebowski, R. T. (2000). Reducing the risk of breast cancer. New England Journal of Medicine 343, 191-198.

Brzezinski A, Debi A. Phytoestrogens: the "natural" selective estrogen receptor modulators? Eur J Obstet Gynecol Reprod Biol. 1999:85:47-51.

Consensus opinion: The role of isoflavones in menopausal health: consensus opinion of the North American Menopause Society. Menopause. 2000:7:21 5-229.

Tham DM, Gardner CD. Haskell WL. Clinical review 97: Potential health benefits of dietary phytoestrogens: a review of the clinical, epidemiological, and mechanistic evidence. J Clin Endocrinol Metab. 1998:83:2223-2235.

Murkies AL. Wilcox G, Davis SR. Clinical Reviews 92 Phytoestrogens. J Clin Endocrinol Metab. 1998:83:297-303.

Xu, X., Duncan, A. M., Merz, B. E., and Kurzer, M. S. (1998). Effects of soy isoflavones on estrogen and phytoestrogen metabolism in premenopausal women. Cancer Epidemiology, Biomarkers, and Prevention 7, 1101-1108.

Hoffman, R. (1995). Potent inhibition of breast cancer cell lines by the isoflavonoid kievitone: comparison with genistein. Biochemical and Biophysical Research Communications 211, 600-606.

Chiechi LM. Dietary phytoestrogens in the prevention of long-term postmenopausal diseases. Int J Gynaecol Obstet. 1999:67:39-40.

By Julia Walker

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4 Easy Steps To Achieve Radiant, Supple Breasts

2006-11-27T16:47:00.000-08:00

Just take taking care of your face to look young and radiant, your breast skin needs the same tender loving care too. You need to remove dead skin cells, deeply cleanses and hydrates your breast skin, in order to promote healthier, younger looking skin. With the right products use, it should leaves your breast skin soft, supple, resilient, and appearing years younger.

Do you know sluggish cell energy, and thus, sluggish cellular response, can hinder your response to cream or lotion you are applying onto your breast, even if you are using the best breast enhancement products available.

There are 4 basic steps to condition your breast skin to absorb the cream you are applying, so that you can see the effects. In addition, your breast skin will be much smoother and look more radiant after your tender care. Let's take a look at each step in more details:

Step 1: Removes Dead Skin Cell

You can look for products that contains natural fruit enzymes loosen and dissolve dead skin cells on your breast skin surface, while Pueraria Mirifica extracts pamper and enhance your breasts. These enzymes 'know' the difference between living tissues and expired, non-active cells, so they can gently remove dead skin cells completely without harming live skin cells.

Step 2: Deep Cleansing and Promote Cell Growth

Look for product that rapidly exfoliates and resurfaces skin, deep cleanse to promote new cell growth, improve circulation and clarity for your breast skin with its deep cleansing action, while naturally rich nutrients and Pueraria Mirifica extracts pamper and enhance your breasts. This will give your breasts the healthy glow.

Step 3: Cools and Clams Skin

Look for products that is in gel form. The fresh gel texture should melt immediately into your breast skin and the soothing properties reduce possible redness or irritation. This step make your breast skin more resilient & supple.

Step 4: Deep Hydration and Nourishment

Products should contains herbal extracts within the mask to restore firmness and elasticity. Pueraria Mirifica extracts preferred as it pamper and enhance your breasts. This step will help to prevent and reduce signs of aging, tones, refreshes and energizes your breast skin. Deep hydration forms a barrier to prevent moisture loss.

One point to take note when selecting breast enhancement products: Always uses breast enhancement products that contains Pueraria Mirifica. Reason being it is the herb that contains the highest level of phytoestrogens. Phytoestrogens stimulates your breast development, and enhance your breasts.

What Makes Pueraria Mirifica The Best Phytoestrogen?

"Miroestrol and Deoxymiroestrol " is very different from other phytoestrogen, as it posses highest estrogenic activity among the known phyto-estrogens due to structural similarity to estradial, (Estradiol is the main human estrogen which can be found in all women who are at the stage of nursing baby (Lactating); as you may notice that all women who are in this stage, their breast will enlarge and gain firmness for feeding purpose.

Miroestrol and Deoxymiroestrol Can Only Be Found In Pueraria Mirifica! But not every Pueraria Mirifica are created equal, they varies from species to species and the growing conditions. There are more than 13 species of Pueraria Mirifica and most of them are called "Pueraria Mirifica" or "Kwao Krua Kao" but this doesn't mean that they are the same, they may look same in the appearance but they produce different results.

The only way to differentiate their difference is to measure the amount of Miroestrol and Deoxymiroestrol contain inside the roots of Pueraria Mirifica. An elaborate and expensive test need to be carry out in specialized laboratory to certify the actual amount of Miroestrol and Deoxymiroestrol found in any specific type of Pueraria Mirifica.

The above information is found in Ms Yvonne Lee, internationally acclaimed book "To All Women Who Want To Enhance Their Breasts Naturally, But Don't Know How To Start". It describes and details the most important breast enhancement techniques from every corner of the world. Author Yvonne Lee, provides an unbiased pro-and-con analysis of each breast enhancement techniques, in addition to practical information such as how and where to get it, cost involved and more. The ebook version of the book is now available for 56 days review at: http://www.breastenhancementbook.com

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DOES INTAKE OF HERB BARLEY REALLY INCREASE YOUR BREASTS?

2006-11-17T20:57:00.000-08:00

By Julie Walker

Breast enhancement supplement usually contain herbs (like Barley), with natural estrogenic properties from plant sources (phyto-estrogens) that work by regulating hormones and promote healthy tissue growth.

Breast enhancement supplements enhances and stimulates estrogen-sensitive breast tissues and helps to enhance breast size naturally by introducing phyto-estrogen (naturally occuring plant estrogen) derived from plants directly into the estrogen receptor sites.

One of most commonly used herb in breast enlargement pills is Barley. Barley is a rugged grain, which, due to the sturdiness of the plant, can be found throughout the northern hemisphere, from Asia to the Americas. The grain itself is composed of about 5 parts. The two outermost parts are protective hulls, which cannot be.

The pearl is used for the preparation of a decoction which is a nutritive and demulcent drink in hot conditions and in catarrhal affections of the respiratory and urinary organs: barley water is used to dilute cows' milk for young infants.

However, intake of Barley alone may not be that effective, unless it is combined synergistically with other similar herbs that contain phytoestrogens. And not all phytoestrogens give the same effectiveness to increase your breasts.

So, where can one find the herb that gives the best phytoestrogens? Or does it exist in the first place?

Studies have shown that Pueraria Mirifica as one of the best phytoestrogen you can find. What makes Pueraria Mirifica the best Phytoestrogen? How is it different from Barley?

Pueraria mirifica is a round herb from the soy family and is indigenous only to Thailand. It is extremely rich in phyto-estrogens and has been used for centuries by the Thais for breast enhancement, PMS problems and as a health tonic for older women. Its uniqueness lies in the fact that phytoestrogen "Miroestrol" and "Deoxymiroestrol" can only be found in Pueraria Mirifica!

"Miroestrol and Deoxymiroestrol " is very different from other phytoestrogens found in other plants such as Barley. It posses highest estrogenic activity among the known phytoestrogens due to structural similarity to Estradial. Estradiol is the main human estrogen which can be found in all women who are at the stage of nursing baby (Lactating); as you may notice that all women who are in this stage, their breast will enlarge and gain firmness for feeding purpose.

This is the main reason why Pueraria Mirifica is unique from other breast enhancement herbs such as Barley.

According to Thai traditional medicine, this "rejuvenating" herb is recommended for both aged men and women for its efficacy to grow hair, strengthen and darken existing ones, help improve complexion and remove wrinkles, improve eyesight, increase energy and vigor leading to more reflexive body movements.

The above information on the Barley, and Pueraria Mirifica is found in Ms Yvonne Lee, internationally acclaimed book "To All Women Who Want To Enhance Their Breasts Naturally, But Don't Know How To Start". It describes and details the most important breast enhancement techniques from every corner of the world. Author Yvonne Lee, provides an unbiased pro-and-con analysis of each technique, in addition to practical information such as how and where to get it, cost, and potential impact on insurance coverage.

The ebook version of the book is now available at: http://www.breastenhancementbook.com
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Read what Roy Allen wrote about a stun gun taser for self protection!

A stun gun taser is a relatively inexpensive, convenient and powerful way to ward off attackers. The sight and sound of a stun gun taser going off is usually enough to scare an attacker away. Stun gun tasers repel your attacker with high voltage yet low amperage shock. You cannot be shocked even if you are touching the attacker.

Roy Allen's Your Protection First web site provides quality self defense items for men, women and children. The stun gun taser is an effective and convenient for of self defense.
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BUILD EXCELLENT LIFETIME RELATIONSHIPS!

2006-10-30T17:06:00.000-08:00

By Ralph lampton

Do you realize relationships begin shortly after birth and are ongoing ways of life for every person on the planet?

An important part of life depends on how we develop our relationships with others. Perhaps, if we consider examples of this development, a better understanding will enable us to think more clearly before we interact with others.

Examples:

1. At birth we acknowledge a relationship with our mothers
2. Growing up, we build friendships with family members
3. In school, relationships with peers and teachers are normal
4. Most begin their dating relationships along the way
5. Searching for first employment, relationships must be formed
6. To market products, relationships are tried, tested, used

Most sports require close relationships to build a winning team. How far would the space programs have gotten without close working relationships? Would we marry without an excellent relationship with our partner?

As people mature in life, many relate an emptiness that is often difficult to understand or comprehend if a relationship has not been established with our creator. This personal relationship will fill a void that no other can fill. This is the most important relationship of all in every life, for complete fulfillment and joy.

The purpose for these examples are to enhance our willingness and desire to work on developing meaning in our lives, our families, and our businesses to become better persons and better marketers with positive relationship building goals.

A few very important traits in relationships are integrity or honesty, trust, and a willingness to open ourselves to others and be examined.

Have you ever seen failure? Perhaps it was caused by the lack of trust or integrity in another.
Can relationship building with other persons prevent failure? Would your business become more successful with many great relationships? Think on these statements and make the adjustments in your life that you feel may improve your disposition.

These basic groundwork ideas on relationships are written to jog thinking and perhaps increase your business skills until they direct you to where success in business is inevitable and joy in your work becomes a normal lifestyle.

You may find varied and rotating articles on relationship building on our website, along with tips you can possibly use for your business.

Many times along the path of life, failures occur. It is good news to recognize and know the importance of earning good relationships during these trials and to be well prepared for the needed improvements.

Expect the best, prepare for the worst, and take what comes, is a great buffer for the many trials that happen in life.

Great relationships developed over a lifetime, yield great rewards!

Ralph started his career in corporate America working in the banking industry. For the past several years he has pursued his career in a home-based business.
You can reach Ralph at eitherrlampton@comcast.net http://profitonestep.com/
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SOME HELPFUL HINTS FOR A MORE EXCITING RELATIONSHIP

2006-10-30T17:03:00.000-08:00

I think we can all agree that most relationships are very exciting in the beginning but if you have been in your current relationship for awhile you may have already noticed that the initial excitement you had is starting to subside and you and your partner may be settling into a dull routine. As a relationship progresses one or both partners may be guilty of settling into complacency and may not strive to keep the element of excitement in their relationship. Here are a few tips for ensuring that your relationship stays as exciting as it was in the beginning.

Never underestimate the value of spontaneity in a relationship. Too often relationships lose their excitement because the mates fall into a routine that becomes boring as time goes by.

Don’t be afraid to suggest new activities in your relationship or to try new things on a whim. Being spontaneous doesn’t have to involve big decisions it can be as simple as picking up something new at the grocery store and trying a new recipe for dinner. Whatever you do, just let your instincts take over for a minute instead of relying on rationality. Anything you do that is spontaneous may not work out as well as if you had planned out every last detail but just go with the flow and you’ll find your relationship taking a turn for the better.

Exploring a new location together is another way to bring the excitement back into your relationship. Whether you plan an elaborate trip to an exotic location or just take the bus to a nearby city that you have never visited your adventure together will help spice up your romance. Take your time exploring the new location and enjoy the foods and atmosphere that the new place has to offer. Exploring new cities can help bring the thrill back to your relationship.

Still another way to spice up a fading relationship is to sign up for an instructional class together such as a cooking, dancing or pottery class. Working together to learn a new skill will draw the two of you closer as you strive to accomplish a goal together. A class will enable you and your partner to interact in a new way. This new interaction will help to pull you out of a rut.

Spending a night at a hotel is another way to restore the excitement in your relationship. Intimacy is very important in a relationship and if you and your partner have found that this aspect of your relationship has lost it’s spice, it’s time to shake things up a bit. Choose a romantic hotel, preferably one with a cozy restaurant. Begin by having a wonderful candlelight dinner in the restaurant and then proceed to the room that you have reserved. Setting the mood with candles and dim lighting is also suggested. A night in a different location such as a romantic hotel will go a long way towards rekindling your intimate relationship. Go buy a new sexy negligee or some other nice piece of lingerie just for the occasion.

By Gregg Hall
Gregg Hall is a consultant for online and offline businesses and lives in Navarre Florida. Find more about sexy lingerie at http://www.lingerie-plus-more.com/
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THE SEVEN B's OF HEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS

2006-10-30T16:58:00.000-08:00

There are certain principles that apply to all types of relationships, whether they are friendships, romances, business associations or family interactions. We all lose focus from time to time and can benefit from being reminded of the core tenets of relationship success. Being attuned to the Seven B's, can help you make all of your relationships healthier, happier and more productive.

Be Realistic

Know what you want - be honest with yourself about the types of relationships you want to have and the qualities and characteristics of the people you want to play major roles in your life.Know what is available - be realistic in your expectations. There are no perfect people.Know where to find it - where you look for people to interact with determines the qualities that you are likely to find in those people. Determine the types of people you are looking to attract into your life and frequent the places where those people are likely to appear.

Be Authentic

Know what you have to offer - be what you seek. If you are looking to interact with people who have certain qualities, be sure that you have developed those qualities in yourself.Know what others are looking for - people often make the comment, "take me as I am." It is important to keep in mind that just as you seek certain qualities in those with whom you interact, others have their own standards of what they are seeking. If you develop qualities that are attractive to others, you will have no problem drawing quality people into your life.Know how to present your "best self" - to have the best you must be your best. Be sure that the person others see reflects the best that you have to offer.

Be Open

Know how to share - communication is vital to healthy relationships. Talk, listen and ask questions. Sharing information is the best way to bond.Know how much to share - be generous in sharing yourself, but do not overwhelm others with too much information too soon.

Be Tactful

Know when to share - handle your relationships with "kid gloves", not a wooden mallet. Always be sensitive to how your words and actions will affect another person. Know what to share - some things are better left unsaid. The truth should always be couched in kindness. Make sure that you have the facts correct.

Be Flexible

Know when to "go with the flow" - even good relationships require compromise. Sometimes it is good to "go along to get along." There does not have to be perfect agreement or conformity, but a healthy amount of compromise leaves everyone a winner.Know how to extend yourself - sometimes it is necessary to "go the extra mile" for someone you care about. This might mean opening yourself up to their friends and family, doing a little "something extra" to make that person feel special or just being a supportive shoulder or listening ear when they need it.Know when to try something new - interacting with others can take us out of our "comfort zones". Trying something that the other person enjoys might open you up to new and exciting experiences and could be a wonderful opportunity for personal growth as well as the growth of the relationship.

Be Accountable

Know how to be true to your word - always follow through on what you say you will do. If you find it impossible to keep a plan or promise, always let the other person know well in advance. This is the best way to build and maintain trust.Know how to ensure your integrity - have an accountability partner, establish realistic deadlines and determine non-negotiable boundaries for the relationship.

Be Patient

Know when to wait - often, we want to rush through the preliminaries to get to a desired conclusion. It is important to recognize when a potential relationship is worth the effort to take a step back and wait for things to develop at a pace that will be comfortable for both parties.Know how to wait - waiting does not mean inactivity. Constantly work on self-improvement and stay engaged in worthwhile activities, while giving others the amount of space they need. Evaluate the feasibility of the relationship - while you are waiting, you can again consider whether the relationship meets your needs. This takes you back to point #1 - Be Realistic.

Thus, we reveal a never-ending loop that keeps us evaluating and improving where we are in our relationships. The "buzz" is, by implementing these steps, you will build quality relationships. Here's to your relationship health!

By Talayah G. Stovall

Talayah G. Stovall is an author and motivational speaker. Her book, Crossing the Threshold: Opening Your Door to Successful Relationships, and eBook, 150 Important Questions You Should Ask Before You Say "I Do" are available at http://www.talayahstovall.com/.
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IT MAY SEEM LIKE EVERY MAN IN THE WORLD CAN APPROACH WOMEN, BUT MOST CAN'T

2006-10-30T16:54:00.000-08:00

OK Ladies, I know how it can be. Everywhere you go some guy invariably tries to “hit on you”. Maybe he even goes for the advanced routine of “putting the moves on you”. This could be happening to you every day. Possibly several times every day.

And I’m fully on board with the fact that such situations are far from limited to “ready-made” scenarios like bars, speed dating venues, etc. I realize you can’t even buy a flippin’ airline ticket without dealing with someone cleverly lining up behind you in “Boarding Group A” with designs on getting to sit next to you for a cozy two hour trip from San Antonio to Chicago Midway.

Happens every time, does it not?

There’s no wonder that many women go through life believing that all men approach whatever woman they want, whenever they want as second nature. Similarly, my impression is that most women believe that if a man is interested in her, he’ll go through the motions of approaching her like “all the rest of the guys” seem to. Therefore, if a man isn’t bothering to come up to her and make conversation, he simply must not be all that interested in doing so.

Not true. Not by a long shot.

My estimation, based on personal research and studying the work of others, is that at least 90% of all men have some trouble approaching and talking to a woman that they do not know. For many, “trouble” could be better described as “paralyzing fear”. For others guys, it’s simply a matter of mental programming that discourages them from bothering to try.

Let me offer three potential reasons why this is the case:

1) Men have been taught that women do not want to be approached

Whenever you see a fictional portrayal of a man approaching a woman in movies or on TV, there is a predictable result—especially in comedic situations. The guy always tries some cheesy line and is invariably shot down HARD by the woman. Hilarity ensues. This is, for lack of a better description, a sure thing when it’s time to get a laugh. Never mind that the James Bonds of the world successfully meet women left and right in more dramatic roles. Guys see those guys as unrealistic characters, and the negative image of women comedically “shooting them down” is what sticks to the subconscious mind.

Heck, there’s even a commercial about a guy with bad breath hitting on a woman he’s sitting next to on the plane, isn’t there?

2) The perceived risks are too high

“What if she’s married?” “I’m sure she already has a boyfriend.” “There’s not really enough time to have a conversation.” “It’s too loud in here anyway.”

By rationalizing away the opportunity with contrary thoughts, many men talk themselves out of taking any action to meet a woman, thereby nixing the chance of meeting her completely…and forever.

3) They can’t handle the thought of “getting beat by a girl”

Men have egos. There’s really no denying it. And one idea that the vast majority of guys cannot even stand the thought of is “getting beaten by a girl” in a competitive environment.

Consider this. When a man approaches a woman, the common belief is that there’s really no hiding the fact that he’s doing so because he is romantically interested. As such, in his own mind he becomes very vulnerable at the point he begins a conversation with a woman he doesn’t know. She holds all the cards, and has all the power when this happens. If she “rejects” his advance, she apparently positions herself as having power and authority over the man. After all, he wanted her, and she chose not to want him in return. Her social status is therefore perceived to be better than his. He LOST.

Some ladies reading these words are hearing ideas that they have never, ever considered.

After all, being “afraid of girls” is elementary school stuff, isn’t it? Well, old habits sometimes die hard. Some guys grow old but never grow up, and I’m sorry to report that this is one area that applies.

Some guys reading this are likely coming to grips with concepts that have haunted them for years, without really having been able to pinpoint exactly why.

So what to do? How can men have an easier time approaching women? And ladies, what can you do to make the experience of men approaching you more enjoyable?

Find out answers to those questions and many more in next week's article entitled "Here's To Success For Men Who Approach Women...And For The Women They Approach".

By Scot McKay
Want to hear more? Scot McKay is a dating coach in San Antonio, TX and founder of X & Y Communications, a one-stop-shop for dating resources. He is the author of the new book “Deserve What You Want”, and hosts the popular podcast series “X & Y On The Fly”. He may be reached at scot@xandycommunications.net or on the Web at http://www.deservewhatyouwant.com/ .
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HOW TO ATTRACT WOMEN: THE TOP TEN WAYS TO TELL IF SHE'S INTO YOU ( AND THE 6 SIGNS THAT SHE'S NOT!)

2006-10-30T16:47:00.000-08:00

No one can deny that body language plays a crucial role in catching girls’ attention–and keeping it. Nearly *75%* of signals women send is through body language--so you're not going to find out if she's into you from words alone! Unfortunately, many men miss out on these signals, and thus miss out on the girl. The good news is, if you CAN read a girl's signals, you stand out from the rest of guys, and make yourself all the more attractive! With that said, here are 6 signs that she's not into you, and 10 signs that she is!

BAD BODY LANGUAGE

1. Not making eye contact with you—looking around, eyeing her friends, looking anywhere but at you

2. Legs crossed—always a bad sign. This means she’s closing herself off to you

3. Arms crossed—This can convey annoyance and impatience. Definitely a bad sign.

4. Hands on her hips—This can also convey impatience. Not looking good.

5. Leaning backwards—It’s much better when a woman is leaning towards you. If you notice her leaning away from you, keeping her distance, it means you’ve gotten too close for her comfort and she’s not that into you, at least at this point.

6. A weak handshake—Do you shake a girl’s hands when you meet her? If you do and notice that hers is weak and she is quick to take back her hand, then she’s not very impressed.

GOOD BODY LANGUAGE

1. She looks down when you see her and smiles–A very good sign. She’s shy but wants you to come over to talk to her.

2. She’s twirling her hair around–Definitely into you.

3. Licks her lips–unless you can tell she’s screwing with you, this is a very good sign!

4. Open legs–Open legs, open mind. She’s open to hearing more from you–and who knows what else.

5. Sideways glance–The classic Hollywood flirtation, this is a coy, seductive way of showing her interest

6. Fondling a cylindrical object (cigarette, glass, etc.)–VERY good sign! And a hint of what she may have in mind for later on in the evening…

7. Fondling her shoe (shoe is slight off her foot, twisting her foot in circles)–This is that classic shy signal that girls use to display interest.

8. The "leg twine"–one leg pressed hard against the other to give the appearance of high muscle tone–very good sign

9. The head toss–If she tosses her hair back over her shoulders, this is definitely a good gesture.

10. Exposed wrists–If she’s interested in you, she will gradually display the smooth, soft skin of her wrists to a guy she’s interested in. Wrists are actually considered one of the more erotic areas of the body–so if she’s showing you this sexual area–go for it!

Hope these tips help you out. Remember, none of this will do you any good if you don't follow up on it! If a girl is showing interest, it's up to you to take the next step and show your attraction BACK to her. Tune in to my next article on what YOU as a man must do to successfully attract female attention, using flirtatious body language. Because it's your turn!

James Brito is the author of "How to Be Irresistible to Women." His years of dating experience and international travel have tutored him in the art of meeting and seducing women the world over. His immersion in internationaldating circles brings forth a gritty, no-nonsense approach to dating and developing relationships necessary for the modern single man.

Learn more about how to attract the woman of your dreams at:
http://www.000relationships.com/.

By James Brito
James Brito makes it easy to attract and build honest relationships with the women you want. To receive your free 6-part audio mini-course, please visit:
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DO NOT GET DEPRESSED WHEN YOU HAVE TROUBLE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIPS

2006-10-30T16:45:00.000-08:00

Do you get depressed when your relationships with the opposite sex give you a hard time? It can be very depressing to have to deal with relationships that are not going well. As a result, here are some ways to remain optimistic when your dating relationships do not go as well as expected.

Make the best of your situation whether you are alone or in a relationship. If you are happy in your current relationship then take of advantage of that. If you are alone, make the best with your situation. The key is to be happy whether you are alone or with someone else.

Do not be afraid of being alone. Some people get into a relationship to avoid being alone. This is not a good idea because you are forcing something that may just not work out in the long run. We will all have to spend some time alone in our lives. Do not let loneliness become an issue in your relationships. Make sure you pick somebody that is right for you.

Develop a network of friends and establish some hobbies. This will increase your chances of meeting people and will make you happy when you are by yourself. Join the local volleyball team or go to the gym. This is a lot better than staying home and being depressed over the disappointments of your last relationship. Making friends will help you forget about dealing with your stresses and anxieties.

Learn from your mistakes in your past relationships. It takes practice and a lot of effort to maintain a successful relationship. Try to learn what you did right and what you need to improve on. If you still have trouble, then talk to a professional who can give you additional advice.

Take advantage of the help that is available around you. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future. Managing your fears and anxieties takes practice. The more you practice, the better you will become.

It can be depressing when your current relationships do not work out. They key is to be happy with yourself and to learn from your past mistakes. Hopefully, things will work out in the long run.

By Stan Popovich
Stan Popovich is the author of, A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear, an easy to read book that presents a overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
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THE TOP SIX ROMANCE KILLERS - AND HOW TO AVERT THEM

2006-10-30T16:41:00.000-08:00

Remember the time your lover couldn’t keep his hands off you? And now, it seems, his hands are strictly for holding the remote, and he has eyes only for the TV.

What went wrong? Besides the fact that lifestyles today are more stressful than ever (a definite romance buster), most relationships go through predictable phases – from intense passion to a warm friendly glow to possible eventual indifference.

All couples, however, do not end up with indifference towards each other. Some even retain intense romance and passion for as long as they live. These relationships are not instances of chance or luck – the continued intimacy is a result of working on the relationship and not giving up on each other when the things look bleak.

If you are looking for more than just “holding on” to each other out of habit and wish to rekindle the flame of the early days of your romancing, here are some tips that will help you reach that goal:

Chores and additional responsibility: The greatest difference between the dating days and the living together days is the drastic change in responsibility levels. Money matters, household chores, and decision-making are the major areas of conflict.

For instance, you have never discussed who does what around the house, and when you see your partner sprawled on the couch while you are hard at work, it angers you. The best way to sidestep this hurdle is to work on communication. In this example, it would help to discuss division of chores and responsibilities before you start living together. Also, discuss money matters beforehand – who will spend on what, how much will be saved etc. If one partner puts in efforts to save money, and the other partner spends lavishly, the relationship is heading towards troubled waters. When we stop communicating, resentment builds up.

Resentment: Unresolved issues lead to bitterness and resentment. And when we resent our partner, we tend to start shutting him/her out of our lives. This is the beginning of indifference. Snip indifference in the bud by recognizing its signs and talking about the unresolved issue. Seek a closure.

Fitness & Health: High profile and highly demanding careers mean that we have little emotional energy to “give” at the end of the day. When both partners feel this way, they may end up snapping at each other for non-issues. And if you have been neglecting your health by eating junk food and not exercising, you feel constantly exhausted and irritable. So when both partners maintain a healthy (and fit) lifestyle, it helps their relationship.

Babies: Some say that the greatest test of the health a relationship is how it survives the entry of the new family member – the baby. Newborns can add to the stress of an already stressed relationship. If you don’t want your relationship to fall apart on account of the baby, make sure you are working on it before the baby is born – again, the key is open and honest communication.

Familiarity: At some point in the relationship we get comfortable enough with each other to burp in front of each other. This familiarity sometimes extends to not opening doors for our partner, and not carrying bags for her – little courtesies are forgotten. Even if we are comfortable with each other, behaving in a gentlemanly manner (or ladylike manner) when the occasion demands, keeps the romance alive.

Bickering: Most bickering is a reflection of a bigger problem – it is never really about the socks on the floor or the toothpaste tube cover- it is about how these gestures show that you don’t care enough about your partner to put in the effort. Bickering only increases your frustration because while the issue does not get resolved, you get labeled a “nag”. Talking in a constructive and positive manner about what bothers you is the best way to sidestep bickering.

Always remember to talk in a place that is free of distractions such as the TV or the baby. And while we’re going on about honest communication, remember the golden rule of speaking to your partner – it never hurts to be diplomatic. We’re saying, “be honest”, but that does not equal “be harsh”. Talk in a considerate, gentle and positive manner; and your partner will reward you by being responsive. And that is the beginning of rekindling the romance.

By Lynn Johnson
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A FEW COMMON REASONS MEN LEAVE

2006-10-30T16:38:00.000-08:00

There are many different reasons why men leave relationships or refuse to settle down with the woman they are with. It’s important for women to take a good look at these reasons. To their surprise and delight, they will discover that most of the reasons why men leave have nothing to do with them.

Some men cling to the ghost of past relationships, idealizing an old love and deciding they'll never find a person like that again. It feels safer to hold onto the past than risk failure with someone who is available today. These men prefer to dwell in a memory than to face the reality of present day life.

For some, this memory goes back to their mothers. No woman can live up to mom, or to any other woman they idealize. They begin to imagine that these other women were perfect and gave them unconditional love. Whatever their present girlfriend does is compared with that. No woman can win over an idealized memory. These men are living in dreams.

Other men leave seeking excitement and challenge. Being with someone who loves them becomes boring and flat. After years of dating beautiful women who adored him but for whom he felt little, Frederick, a handsome, articulate architect, in his late thirties, finally fell in love. It was a tumultuous situation, however. "I was in love with Fern for three years,” he said. "But I left her three times and each time she came back, wanting me again. No other woman had done that before. Fern was very neurotic. I guess that’s what attracted me.”

Some men find the lack of stability in a woman to be challenging, exciting and erotic. The unpredictability creates a situation where there is a constant sense of danger and threat of loss. This keeps these men constantly on the alert, so things never become routine. Excitement is confused with passion. There is a sense that, because of the turmoil, they are finally alive. After awhile it usually becomes too much.

"I finally left Fern and never went back,” Frederick said. “It became too exhausting in the long run.”

When men are attracted to neurotic women, it is interesting to note that these men are often attracting a partner who is expressing what he is also going through inside. She may be acting out what he is feeling and not able to express. When he finally becomes angry with the woman, he is really angry with himself. What we cannot accept in another is always something we haven't been able to accept in ourselves.

Other stresses also cause men to leave relationships. When a man is unhappy at his job, or when he feels pressured to commit, before he is ready, old dreams that haven’t been fulfilled will come up to haunt him. He then will begin to feel that this is the time to live out these dreams. These men often feel justified in abruptly leave unsatisfying relationships in search of their fantasies and dreams.

When Renee, handsome, strong, the successful owner of a well know beauty salon left for a new woman he said, “No one leaves if they're happy. After awhile you just begin to feel time is running out and you get tired of the bad stuff. You feel you don't need it anymore. You paid your dues. You're tired."

When asked why he felt the attraction to a different woman, he said, “Part of it is just plain beauty. But also she was much younger. I like that. A young woman looks up to a guy because he's older and can do all these things for her, and he adores her because she's young, pretty and makes him look good and feel good and proud." Implicit in this is a deep need men have to be looked up to, valued, respected and recognized, not only by his peers, but by the woman he's with. Especially at a time in life when a man's sense of himself is wavering, it is extremely uplifting to have a woman who looks up to him and what he has achieved. Unfortunately, at this point, some wives of long standing can only see their man’s deficits. If they then remind him of his failings constantly, it's often more than his ego can bear.

Though there are many more factors contributing to men leaving relationships, a common theme appears through all of them. The men are not necessarily responding to the woman they are leaving, but to their own inner needs, conflicts and dreams. Often they experience the woman in their lives simply as a part of their own sense of self. It is not the woman herself who necessarily causes the man to leave, but the man's feelings about himself, his own inner fantasy and quest.

By Brenda Shoshanna

Hear men tell you in their own words what they really feel about women and what makes a relationship work for them. This eye-opening book on modern relationships - Why Men Leave http://www.whymenleave.com/ offers a real understanding of men. It will change the way women think about men and about what goes on in relationships. It is written by Dr. Brenda Shoshanna, psychologist, relationship expert, workshop leader and author of many books, including The Anger Diet and Zen And The Art of Falling In Love, (Simon and Schuster),Contact her at mailto: mailto:topspeaker@yahoo.com . Her personal website is: http://www.brendashoshanna.com/ Go to: http://www.whymenleave/ to get your copy right now.
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WHY DO WOMEN CHEAT? THE WOMEN SPEAK

2006-10-30T16:35:00.000-08:00

By Steve Roberts

Recently I requested responses from my newsletter list from women who have had the experience of cheating on their partner. These responses were very enlightening!

Some confirmed my assumptions, and others surprised me. All the responses came from women who cheated only one time, so no further conclusions can be drawn in this article regarding the repeat cheater.

In my first article on why women cheat I stated that the basic reason is that they hurt. They feel lonely, neglected, unwanted, unappreciated, and disappointed in what they had hoped for.
This may be a similar reason for men, but women rarely experience the trophy gathering experience of men, or the direct physical need to just satisfy sexual desire regardless of who it is with. Generally, the cheating is because of some kind of pain:

“My husband worked out of town three days a week, and I was feeling lonely and neglected, because when he was home, he was tired and had meetings to attend... I also started going to Gym and got hold of a good eating plan which helped considerably with my posture and outlook on life. I became physically strong and people said I glowed with health. Unfortunately my hubby did not see this.”

“I was not in love. My partner wanted me, but I not him.”

“My husband and I were having problems with him going out with his friends and leaving me alone at home with our child.”

“It probably all comes down to insecurity.”

There are various ways to interpret the brief words above. But the discomfort is very clear in each. Whether it is loneliness, a feeling of neglect, living with someone you don’t love, or the insecurity that comes in relationships for many reasons, emotional pain can be the trigger for an indiscretion.

But why do women in this emotional pain have an affair, while other women feeling a similar pain do not? One of my observances over the years is that many women have found themselves in circumstances where they were “an accident waiting to happen.”

This means that they are feeling bad about life or themselves or their marriage, and they are in circumstances where there is a man who gives them serious attention, listens to them, and shows them appreciation.

Rather than looking for such an affair the woman runs into it somewhat unknowingly.

“But he was friendly, charming, attentive, a good listener, and at work functions he stayed close. He does not over indulge and strangely enough we laugh at the same things, enjoy the same music.”

You can hear all the elements in place: the attention, the listening, and the opportunity present in working together. Similar interests and charm help as well. Before you know it you can very easily become involved.

However, there can be another element involved. This was one of the surprises for me:

“The only reason why I did it was because I couldn’t really trust him. I just didn't want to end up being the one who was cheated on. I would feel hurt and stupid so I had to do it first.”

Here the woman actively sought out the affair. It was a competitive action of doing it first. It would appear that, at times, especially under some kind of perceived duress, women can actively pursue an affair, rather than just stumbling into one. Additionally:

“Women as men feel monotony, (desiring) some changes, some new passion.”

So, what do we make of this kind of behavior? It is obviously common, although in my experience it is usually not about multiple partners or multiple affairs. I suppose the question for many of us, even those who have been involved in it, is could the women have avoided it? Could they have walked away and chosen differently?

Certainly, all women can choose differently. But, many times they don’t.

“I had a day's leave due to me and with hubby out of town... I arranged a hotel room with the Champaine and satin nighty.”

“…we went to walk and then we sat on a bank together watching the sun go down and he touched my hand. It was so beautiful! Then we went back to the pub and in front of the pub he pulled me gently and our mouths were very close to each other. He wanted to kiss me, and I let him kiss.”

Let’s face it. We are all very much human. And that means we have, and do, and will, taste “forbidden fruit” at times. Few of us are proud of our transgressions. Most of the women that wrote to me expressed regret.

“I live to forget it, I literally prayed him out of my life, I confessed and asked the Lord to help me forget about him in this way, I also asked the Lord to take the feelings I have for him away.”
“…but it should never have happened and I am not proud of myself.”

“Nevertheless, if you strongly believe in loyalty and can trust your partner, you still wouldn't do it.”

As humans, we often makes mistakes, and being human we most often have regrets about those mistakes. That is what I have learned the most from these women. They may have just stumbled, or they may have walked into it fully aware, but they learned from it, and often learned painfully.

That does not excuse the hurt caused to partners. It does not remove the consequences of broken hearts and shattered relationships. However, it does speak to the brokenness of our human experience as we fall and get up again, hopefully becoming deeper, more mature people in the process.

Steve Roberts, "The Couples Guy," is an experienced Marriage and Family Therapistwho shares tips and real life relationship secrets from over20 years of practice. Get Insight and Wisdom at:http://www.whatworksforcouples.com/
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KNOW IF SOMEONE IS INTERESTED IN YOU IMMEDIATELY BY READING THEIR BODY LANGUAGE

2006-10-30T16:31:00.000-08:00

By Gregg Hall

If there is one thing that can save all of us a lot of time, trouble and heartache it’s learning how to read the body language of the opposite sex. How many times have you misread the body language of someone, thinking they were attracted to you and when you made your move you were shot down in flames! The ability to read the body language of the opposite sex can tell you whether they are attracted to you or not from across a room. It can also help keep you from sending the wrong signals yourself. Reading body language isn’t all that difficult to learn and once you get used to it you will find it is almost instinctive.

One very easy way to tell if someone may have an interest in you is how close they stand to you. If they are standing farther away and move closer this can be an indication that they are interested, on the other hand if they are close to you and move away it can mean the opposite. It’s similar to the two foot rule in sales, if they come within two feet of you they are very likely to be interested in you. The reason this is such a big deal is because they are sharing space with you within reach of you and trusting that they are safe with you. If someone stays more than two feet away from you it is almost certain that they are not romantically interested in you.

Mirroring your body language is another way that someone can show they are interested in you. This is usually done without even thinking about it, but if you notice someone doing it now that you have a little knowledge about body language you can feel comfortable that they are interested in you. In most cases the other person doesn’t even realize they are doing it, but it is simply instinctive for us to imitate people we want to be close to.

The way that someone stands when they are speaking to you can show body language that tells you whether or not they are interested as well. If someone is speaking to you and they are turned towards you and possible even leaning in towards you it is an indicator that they are interested in you. Much of romantic body language is built around trust and safety. If you appear unguarded then it makes the other person feel safe, if you open yourself up to another person and they mirror that body language, they are most likely interested in you.

One of the biggest indicators of romantic interest is eye contact. When we have an interest in someone or we are attracted to them we strive to make eye contact with them and if they maintain eye contact with you they are definitely interested in you. When someone purposely looks away or avoids making eye contact with you they are not interested so either way you get a pretty clear message from the eyes.

Even though body language is usually understated and involuntary it can also give a clear sign of romantic interest. It seems that because body language is instinctive also makes a very precise signal of romantic interest.

Gregg Hall is a consultant for online and offline businesses and lives in Navarre Florida. Enhance your relationship with sexy lingerie at http://www.lingerie-plus-more.com/
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IT ISN'T FORGIVENESS UNLESS YOU FORGET IT

2006-10-30T16:27:00.000-08:00

By Gregg Hall

If you are one of those people who says, "I will forgive, but I'll never forget", sorry to tell you but you haven't forgiven at all. Forgetting the offense is the key factor in true forgiveness and without the conscious act of forgetting there can be no forgiveness, in addition this attitude can lead to a grudge between two people over something that could have simply been over with an apology. It is important to come to the realization that the relationship is more important than standing on what you believe to be a principle and causing possible irreparable harm.

It doesn't matter if you are justified in the way you feel or not, even though you feel you have been done wrong, you need to understand your feelings to be able to forgive the person and forget the wrongdoing. The old saying of, "two wrongs don't make a right", definitely applies here. Even though this other person may have hurt you, you must realize that a hostile reaction only makes matters worse and just harms the relationship.

You need to be able to talk things out and tell how you feel so that you will feel that you have expressed your take on the situation, but you also need to let the other person involved tell their side. The whole thing could have been a big misunderstanding, but if you just assume that they hurt you intentionally you will never know. Take the time to listen to each other and pay attention to the emotions that are involved during the process so that you will be able to forgive and forget.

Many times the best thing to do is retreat and allow your emotions to calm down in order to be able to work things out amicably. It is important that you do not act rashly and make decisions based on emotions from hurt or anger. Once you have had time to simmer a little, you will be able to express your feelings about the situation in a rational way and the two of you will be able to get your points across to each other in a positive manner. It is crucial that both of you are ready to resolve the conflict so that anger doesn't rise up and eliminate the opportunity for true forgiveness to take place.

You must be willing and open to accept your significant other's apology in order to forgive and forget and put the matter behind you. If you question the sincerity of the apology or feel that they really don't mean it then you are continuing to harbor negative thoughts and this will result in damage to the relationship because you are still unwilling to forget. Pay attention to your partner as they go through the difficult process of apologizing and have the faith and trust to believe that they are remorseful and mean what they say. Tell them you forgive them and that you are going to just forget that it happened. This is the only way to resolve an issue and have true forgiveness.

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HOW TO SAY YOU'RE SORRY AND MAKE IT MEAN SOMETHING

2006-10-30T16:24:00.000-08:00

Ever been in trouble with your wife or girlfriend? Of course you have, if you have known each other any time at all! We can't help it, as guys we always do something or say something without thinking that upsets our significant other. Saying you are sorry can get you of the doghouse when you've done this but only if she really believes you are sincere and remorseful. If she thinks that you are just apologizing to take advantage of the incredible make up sex, you will be in hotter water than you were before you started!

One of the things that shows sincerity and remorse better than anything is action. What I mean by that is making a conscious effort not to repeat the same offense again. If you find yourself apologizing time and time again for the same offense not only does it show a lack of remorse but also shows that you really don't care about what upset her.

If you know the exact reason she is upset, then apologize for that exact thing. Just saying you are sorry without knowing the reason is not only insincere but also sets you up for repeating it because you don't know what it is you need to avoid doing or saying. If you really have no idea, humble yourself and ask her what you did to upset her, tell her you're an idiot for nor realizing but you really want to know because you don't want to do it again.

Don't ever apologize by phone if you can do it in person and never do it with a message or an email. Again, this kind of cold and removed apology shows a lack of sincerity and doesn't demonstrate that you are truly sorry for what you did. Take the time and effort to meet personally so that you can show how sorry you are and try to make amends.

If you want to go down in flames, go ahead and blame her for the situation while you are apologizing. I know that a lot of times the problem may have been contributed to by her, but the issue here is your apology. If you have a decent woman, she will reciprocate with an apology as well as long as you do it the right way. The only way to have your apology accepted as being sincere is to accept total responsibility.

Don't allow too much time to pass either, if you apologize promptly it will be better accepted than if you wait and she thinks you are simply apologizing to get back in her good graces as an afterthought. On the other hand, if you are having an argument and you try to apologize in the heat of the moment it is likely to fall on deaf ears because she will not hear what you are trying to convey. A nice gift can smooth things over too.

By Gregg Hall
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WHAT UNCONDITIONAL LOVE REALLY IS AND HOW TO GIVE IT

2006-10-26T03:37:00.000-07:00

It is important to understand the definition of unconditional love to be able to give it, it is the kind of love that expects nothing back, places no limits, and does not set any ideals or conditions on what it should be. When you love in this way you do it without expectation of reciprocity and with no preconceived notions of how or if they will express love back to you. This is the kind of love you see exhibited by parents and children, brothers and sisters, true friends, and the best of romantic relationships.

When you love someone unconditionally you do not set limits or boundaries on that love, not circumstances that would cause you to withdraw it, there is nothing that would cause you to not love the person. Even if the other person does something that you feel is intentional, it is overlooked if you are truly committed to unconditional love. You do not try to control the actions of the other person, nor do you tell them that you will not love them if they act a certain way or do a certain thing. When this kind of love is present both partners feel more secure and neither of them seeks to control the other.

Since there are no boundaries or conditions the people in a relationship of unconditional love do not have to worry about the other person leaving or not loving them over a particular situation or behavior. Siblings in most cases are a good example of this, even though they may have quarrels and disagreements throughout their lives the bond between them remains unbroken and their love continues through any and all conflicts.

If you love someone unconditionally you will want whatever is best for them and you will always give them the freedom to seek out the things that really give them happiness. You will let them learn things for themselves and explore situations and experiences that they feel will make them happy, even if you think that you know what is best for them. Although they may make bad choices and do things that are wrong you will always be there for them and never judge them if you truly love them unconditionally.

Can you see room for improvement in your relationship? Do you place restrictions and limitations on the one you love? When you truly love someone unconditionally, you place their needs and their happiness above everything else, including yourself. Remember, just because you love someone in this way it does not mean that they will return their love to you in the same way. Are you ready to love unconditionally?

Gregg Hall is an author living in Navarre Florida. Show your partner how much you love them with sexy lingerie at http://www.sexiestlingerieplus.com/
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CAN YOU KEEP INFIDELITY AT BAY?

2006-10-26T03:33:00.000-07:00

Here are some interesting statistics about in/fidelity:

• A University of Chicago study titled “The Social Organization of Sexuality,” states that as many as a quarter of married men may have been unfaithful to their spouses.

• According to a TIME/CNN poll of Americans' sexual attitudes, 23% of married men agree with the statement, "infidelity is an unavoidable part of married life today."

• Before the cultural homogenization that came with Western colonialism, more than three-quarters of all human societies were polygamous.

• While earlier studies indicated that over 90 percent of birds engage in monogamy (as opposed to only 3 percent mammals), newer studies are showing that bird monogamy may be a myth.

All the evidence seems to indicate that monogamy does not come naturally to the human creature (we’re mammals!). And yet, it is an important prerequisite of a successful marital / romantic relationship. As a couple in a monogamous relationship, the two of you CAN increase the chances of continued monogamy (and happiness) by setting aside some time every month for a fidelity health check.

The baby, your hectic work schedule, and your pending chores are no excuse to neglect “couple time.” When couple time suffers, so does your rapport and your relationship. That is the beginning of “living like brother and sister,” and the end of feeling attracted to each other – the perfect setting for giving in to adulterous temptation.

When you sit down together for your fidelity health check, map out how much time you spent together as a couple doing something that was fun for both of you. If it was less than twice a week, make couple time a priority when planning next week’s schedule (and the next).

The next area to check for is whether you have successfully brought up, discussed, and mutually resolved any issues and differences that came up. How soon was this done? If you handled smaller issues within a couple of days, and bigger issues within one or two weeks, you are right on track. If not, then prevent a resentment buildup by agreeing to table them until a later date. The important issue here is to avoid negative feelings for each other.

Are you aware of your behaviors that annoy or offend your partner and vice versa? Do you have an agreement for sidestepping the friction that these behaviors can cause? If yes, have you and your partner succeeded in keeping these behaviors to a minimal this month? If not, then revisit the points, and refresh your memory about your agreement.

And now let us talk about the most vital ingredient for fueling infidelity – the “other people.” Has your relationship evolved to a level where the two of you can share all information about other people in your lives - friends, coworkers, and others? Are you able to discuss conversations, affectionate gestures, email, and emotional reactions to these people, with your partner? And do the two of you have an agreement that attraction to another person will be discussed openly?

Also, you need to have an agreement to avoid intimate conversations with other people of the opposite sex – especially conversations about dissatisfaction with your marriage or theirs. And the most important agreement is with reference to dating behavior – do both of you agree not to indulge in dating behavior (coffee, lunch, hanging out) with other people?

Lynn Johnson
A University of Chicago study titled “The Social Organization of Sexuality,” states that as many as a quarter of married men may have been unfaithful to their spouses.
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AFFAIRS - HOW TO HAVE ONE AND NOT GET CAUGHT!

2006-10-26T03:30:00.000-07:00

According to the experts, people on the whole are becoming more sexually promiscuous. This is partly due to the throw away ideas we have nowadays, increasing pressures put on person by their lover to be the perfect spouse and have the perfect relationship else your sacked!

Yet it may also be because of our natural urges to populate the earth, and like cavemen we are lacking a willingness to suppress these urges.

Well whatever is happening, affairs are on the increase! And the ladies are catching up in the adultery stakes as more women join in the fun and games of cheating on their full time partners. It is because of these facts that we thought we would add this article to the site. Although this isn't the usually kind of article you read on the topic of unfaithfulness, we are not going to highlight to you the signs that someone is cheating on you. Oh no, we are doing the reverse and giving you tips on how to have an affair and not get caught!

Usual Signs and to Avoid Showing Them

Lipstick on your collarGet him to wear the same shade as you and you'll get away with saying it's your own lippy. You could sound more convincing by adding that you have been flapping your lips all day and that how you must have got it on your collar.

Numbers, messages and calls on you mobile phoneKeep telling your extra marital buddy that you don't have a mobile phone and that you have concerns about the radioactive waves the produce effecting your brain. That way your phone will never tell on you.

You smell of someone else’s perfume/after-shaveTake up working in boots preferably on the fragrance counter.

Love letters or gifts from your bit of fluffBin the letters ASAP in a public bin, better still get on to the council to put a public rubbish bin at the end of your street. As for the gifts, donate then to a charity shop. It might be painful if it is something very nice or expensive, but think of the good your donation will do? You never know you might go to heaven yet despite your sinful behaviour!

Knickers are found in your glove boxThey are a cleaning rag your Mum gave to you to wipe the car windows with when they are covered in condensation - remember never confess to knowing they were knickers!

Love Bites and Scratches from blood thirsty sexBuy a cat and instantly make it hate you, if you can get a bit cat - kittens aren’t very feisty, and are liable to do a runner if you keep reaffirming your bad relationship with it, remember you can't blame a non existent cat for the scratches.

Money mattersBuild an affiliate web site! You will extra cash which will fund your adulterous shenanigans.

Getting home lateThe simplest solution here is to change all the clocks and watches in the house, hey presto, your right on time!

Getting over confidentHaving your ego stroked along with your genitals does do wonders for your confidence, but at home try to be the boring, timid wreck you always are to prevent questions arising.

The smell of someone else’s juice on your bodyIt isn't always possible to get washed before returning home, and there will be a time you get caught smelling of sex. No problem! Say you stopped in a lay-by or car park for a moment on the way home because you felt tired and didn't want to crash the car. Whilst parked up it wasn't long before several people jumped in the car and started shagging - ask how you were to know it was an avid dogging site!

Going off having sex with your full-time partnerBuy them lashings of great sex toys that way they will be having so much fun without you that they wont notice that your not screwing them anymore. If the topic does arise however, turn the whole thing round on them and say - Since you have had all these sex toys you haven't come anywhere near me, you keep your toys! I'm going to sleep in the spear room! What a bonus eh?

Taking more pride in your appearanceStart watching cheap television shows on channel 4 about how to dress to look good, lie and say you find the show inspiring.

Bringing new kinky ideas and positions to the bedroom (oops or kitchen)This is a dead give away - where are you going to say you perfected these smooth moves? No its better to keep with the same old boring sex routine you always had - you know the one that drove you to an affair in the first place!

If all these ideas fail and you get caught or if you just can't be bothered with going through all that hassle for a jump. We suggest you talk to your partner and talk through all the problem that are going on in your relationship, and maybe seek outside guidance by way of counselling or getting yourself on the Trica show! Life is too short to not be happy, to be hurting other people, and living a lie; sort it out or get out.

Despite writing this article, Sex Toy Testers would like to make it clear that we do not condone adultery, however we do promote sex toys!

Written by S. Roberts for http://www.sextoytesters.co.uk/, a tongue in cheek look at how to have an affair and not get caught. You may publish this article but please link back to http://www.sextoytesters.co.uk/ The independent adult review website - Thanks
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DO NOT GET DEPRESSED WHEN YOU HAVE TROUBLE IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

2006-10-26T03:27:00.000-07:00

It can be depressing when your current relationships do not work out. They key is to be happy with yourself and to learn from your past mistakes. Hopefully, things will work out in the long run.

By Stanley Popovich
Stan Popovich is the author of, A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear, an easy to read book that presents a overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
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CHOOSING ORCHID WEDDING FLOWERS

2006-10-26T03:25:00.000-07:00

Today, more and more couples are using orchid wedding flowers to decorate for their wedding. Orchids, in nature, come in a variety of colors, shapes, and design, thus the reason for their popularity.

No matter what theme you may have for your wedding, orchids will give add a bit of color that will enhance the beauty of any wedding.

Orchid wedding flowers is seen quite often as decorations for the traditional white wedding cake. Many times, silk orchids are used to transform an ordinary white cake into a beautiful magical cake by using these exquisite flowers. Orchids used on a wedding cake can be either real or silk with real orchids used around the cake as a decoration lying on the table or in vases. The choices for color is so varied that you may have a hard time choosing, you can use lavender, orange, blue, purple/white, or even yellow to adorn your wedding cake.

The wedding bouquet is another place you can use orchid wedding flowers. You can choose to carry the orchids in a regular bouquet, as a nosegay, or as an arrangement that you cradle in your arm. If you plan to have a winter wedding use silk orchids and create a muff instead with beautiful orchids sewn to the muff to create a magnificent romantic feel.

You can also use orchid wedding flowers to decorate the building in which your wedding will be held. You can use silk or real flowers once again to adorn the chairs, columns, trees, patio, or just about anything. Add a bit of babys breath and tropical ferns and you have the setting for a tropical wedding.

Other ways you can orchids to brighten up your wedding is to have the flower girl scatter petals of real orchids. You can also use orchids on the pillow that carry the rings. The wedding rings could each be put on the stem of an orchid. The ring bearer could hand the flower that held the ring to either the bride or groom at the time it was needed. This would give your wedding a unique touch that other weddings do not have.

Orchids speak the language of love and beauty and have throughout history. Using these exquisite tropical flowers for decorating your wedding will be fun, endearing and memorable not only to you but to your guest as well.

Remember, this is your special day and orchid wedding flowers will enhance the overall beauty and design of your wedding.

By Nicky Pilkington
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GREAT CONVERSATION TO BETTER RELATIONSHIPS

2006-10-26T03:23:00.000-07:00

There are many ways to improve your relationship. One of the ways is to start off your conversation in the right direction. In every relationship with anyone, you need to communicate via conversation. And that would help you build the base of a good relationship. If you correct the way you approach conversation, you would have better relationships.

To begin, you need to understand that conversions are governed by "rules" in our society. These are all unwritten rules, but they are rules nonetheless. For instance, "Don't ask too many questions," "It is impolite to talk with your mouth full" "Don't make too much eye contact" and so on.

Learn to pinpoint these rules in yourself. Uncover them. Write them down. Observe when you buy into them, and when do you not, and you will begin improving your relationships. Which rules are serving you and which ones are not? For example, take the rule: "Don't share your inner most thoughts." This rule may have served you well back in high school, but will it serve you now in your relationship with your spouse?

There are many unwritten rules that prescribe when and where it is appropriate to have a particular conversation. For example, most people would agree that the grocery store is a very appropriate place to have chit chat or average conversations. And most people would think it is a very inappropriate place to have a serious argument, for example. But what about really speaking from your heart? Is that ok in public? What rules are you following?

If you want to be improving your relationships, you must speak from your heart. Speaking from your heart means speaking what is really true for you.

It is my observation that most people believe it is not appropriate to speak from their heart most of the time. That is rule. You can change it. It is time that we took a closer look at this social rule. Who determines when and where it is appropriate to have a particular conversation? Who made up these rules in the first place? Does society at large force them upon individuals or can individuals make up and follow their own rules? To help you get started breaking old rules on improving your relationships and adopting new ones that will start improving your relationships, I have included five powerful questions to ask during conversations:

1. How about if we break the normal conversation rules and tries something really new and different?

2. Even though what I'm about to say might be hard for you to hear, are you willing to hear it anyway?"

3. Are there any unwritten rules you are following right now?

4. Could I interrupt you and have you just listen for a while?

5. How about if we take turns talking and listening for a while?

Start using these questions more often. Try them and see what happens.

By Joshua Poyoh
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IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP SUPPORTIVE?

2006-10-26T03:17:00.000-07:00

Author: Ian Williamson

One of the key components of a relationship is the support that two people provide for each other, yet it is typically one of the most overlooked aspects of choosing the perfect mate. A relationship that is built upon mutual support will overcome just about any obstacles that two individuals encounter along the way.

Support can take on many forms, but in the broadest sense, it is the willingness of two people in a relationship to lift and encourage each other to be the best that they can be. It is also the willingness for each of the individuals to be there for each other through both good and bad times.

Lack of support in a relationship can surface in many ways. It can be something as simple as a failure to be sympathetic when a mate has had a bad day at work, to the major support that is required when embarking on a new business endeavor or during life changing events.

Either way, if support is missing from a relationship in the early stages, chances are it will only get worse through the years. And at some point, it can escalate to the point of no return when much needed support is being sought after and no where to be found.

The reason support is so critical to a healthy relationship lies within the concepts of success and achievement. For two people to build a life together, it is critical for each of them to maintain their own identities while at the same time work together toward common goals and aspirations.
When considering the aspect of maintaining your own identity, it is perfectly normal that two people will not share identical interests in everything they do. One person may be an avid sports fan while the other doesn't know a racquet from a club -- and very well, may never care to learn.

This doesn't mean, however, that the sports challenged mate must forever remain unsupportive of their partner. To the contrary, this is a perfect opportunity to give your partner the freedom to retain their own interests while still being supportive.

If you cringe at the thought of sitting through a sporting event that makes no sense to you, take game day as your opportunity to pursue something that piques your interest. In doing so, you are not only furthering your own separate identities, you are also imposing no feelings of guilt when you each pursue your own interests. In essence, you are supporting each other through extending the freedom to pursue individual passions.

The other area where couples often falter is in matters that involve each working toward a common goal. While maintaining your own identity is critical, it is equally vital to utilize a balanced amount of time and energy in joint endeavors. These might be business matters, financial goals, home improvement projects, and any number of activities that require both individuals working together as a team.

When identifying and implementing plans for an activity that requires the talent and focus of both people, it is critical to identify ultimate goal, create a plan to achieve it, set a timeline for its completion and outline each person's role in the process.

By addressing these things, a clear picture will be formed of the expectations you will place upon each other and you will have given yourselves a means of measuring success. You will also be able to identify any areas of weakness that will enable you to assist each other along the way.

The couple that can effectively master these concepts will likely be the couple that will stand the test of time. No matter what the subject or the endeavor, these same principles will apply and are the key component for the successful outcome of any major joint endeavor.

The amount of support that is present in a relationship, or the lack thereof, will ultimately have a direct correlation to the success of that same relationship. You may recognize this fact in your own relationship or you may see it when you look around at the relationships of others.

Either way, when you become aware of the vital role that support plays in a relationship, it will forever change your approach. And thus, this discovery may ultimately be the turning point in your life that yields the success and achievement you are seeking.

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3 REASONS WHY YOU SHOULD TALK ABOUT A PRENUP BEFORE MARRIAGE

2006-10-26T03:14:00.000-07:00

The Prenuptial/Premarital Agreement form is a notarized document where a couple outlines how they will handles the financial aspects of their marriage. Back in the 19th century it was a common practice. Until the prenup was signed everything a woman owned or even inherited was the property of her husband. If he died or divorced her the widow would not receive any assets or money. Although in todays society we think of asking to sign a prenup as unromantic, it is still a common practice among most couples. These couples are looking for a way to feel secure with their financial assets. If the spouse refuses this may be a sign of bad credit or fears you may want to uncover before the marriage. Also, a prenup will protect the inheritence of the children from a previous spouse. And the most obvious, it will eliminate any debate over whats whose.

You should not look at a prenup as anticipation for divorce, it should be something you feel you need, to secure your financial assets and well-being. If you consider signing a prenup as un-romantic and a lack of trust, you are looking at it wrong, you must remeber a prenup protects both you and your spouse. I highly suggest talking about signing a prenup with your spouse early on in the relationship.

By David F. Nick Fagan is an article writer for http://legalformsbank.biz/ , where you can download state specific printable do-it-yourself legal forms online. Find your states Premaritial Agreement form here.

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9 IMPORTANT FEATURES OF HEALTHY, HAPPY RELATIONSHIPS

2006-10-26T03:10:00.000-07:00

For Healthy, Happy Relationships, here are some basic guidelines for reference. They are in alphabetical order only, not order of importance.

Acceptance:

Don't try to change someone. This is a must. If a person really wants to change, that person will need to be motivated and take action. Period. Also regarding acceptance, accept limitations. He is not Superman; you are not Wonder woman. No one is perfect; so do not expect perfection. Accept the little flaws that come with each person. You accept theirs; they accept yours. That's life!

Bonding:

Bonding with another person generally does take time.

Communicate:

Talk, listen, share the good and the bad, ask questions, compliment instead of nag or insult. In short be a friend; make a friend. That is healthy. If this bonding is lacking, it may mean professional help is needed (like a counselor or therapist) or it may be time to move on to healthier relationships.

Communications:

Be open to the other person. Check judgmental attitudes at the door. And give chances. Be fair, flexible and friendly. If and when things get out of hand and it is your fault, apologize and ask forgiveness and move on. Similarly, be acceptable to apologies and grant forgiveness, too. Life is too short to stay focused on the negative too long. No need to deny it; face it, deal with it and move on past it to improve and strengthen your relationships.

Dependable:

Be a friend; i.e. be dependable. Things happen from time to time and cancellations are a part of life. But on the whole, if you say you'll do something, do it. Take responsibility for your own actions.

Expectations:

Movies, romance novels and television shows often portray life, especially human relationships, very differently than it is in the real world, this is no secret. How many people really always look like movie stars, have zero health ailments, endless income without hardly ever going to work, fabulous cars and homes, friends and family who totally adore them and come to their beckon call, no long-term problems because they all end so quickly, etc.?

And who can battle serious issues like one person having an affair with someone else, and wrap the whole storyline up in two hours? Get real. Expect a little less than the media portray and learn more about humans by joining the real world scenario.

Be Flexible:

Keep a little mystery in the relationship. Juggle your schedule and invite the other person to a surprise picnic or walk at a local public park area. Goals - People usually have some goals together over time. Develop some together. Toss what no longer works, what you outgrew or what may no longer seem important or is finished. And then inherit or create new goals. Working toward a common cause like saving for an annual vacation or a new garden area can help people grow together.

Health:

Take care of your own health and encourage others, too. Even in this day and age of cable television with movies and the Internet available 24/7, it's still amazing the number of people out there who can't "Just say no" to unhealthy behaviors like smoking and drug abuse. Don't be afraid to share your healthy views and encourage healthy choices and living.

Intimacy:

Closeness with a person takes time to develop. And there's more to intimacy than physical contact. Intimacy can mean a hug during a tough time, a smile of encouragement in the face of adversity and compassion when you least feel like giving. Don't abuse or take advantage or the other person. And don't let yourself be abused or taken advantage of. Intimacy takes commitment and sharing.

By Abbas Abedi
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HOW TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY

2006-10-26T03:07:00.000-07:00

Giving unconditional love requires you to love without any expectations. It seems difficult to only love and not demand anything in return in todays world where everyone is selfish and egotistic. But even in this world we see many examples of unconditional love, for example the love a mother gives to her child, the love between two life partners and the love bestowed upon siblings. To love unconditionally you will have to learn to sacrifice your self, your desires, and most importantly your ego. Lets find out how to love unconditionally and give happiness to a person without demanding anything in return. First of all you have to remember that you are not supposed to expect anything from the person you love. Its true that love makes its way itself. When you love somebody with so much passion and ardor, its sure to come round in one way or another. But if somehow you dont get as much as you give, dont complain or argue. Always keep in mind that loving others and giving them everything you have will make you satisfied and happy with yourself.

You need to develop a strong will power to be able to love unconditionally. At some point in our lives we all demand some kind of love and want to express our own love for someone. Believe in the principle of giving more and demanding less. When someone asks you for a favor always be ready to give it. Never complain that you dont have enough or you have other tasks to do. Set your priorities in such a way that everyone else comes first and your own demands come last.

When you love somebody unconditionally you want the best for that person. Think positively about them even if they make mistakes or do not return your feelings. Give them sincere advice about their future and other decisions. Always look around for the betterment of your loved ones without any envy on your part. If you have to sacrifice something of your own for them, dont hesitate to do so. Only then you will truly be able to love unconditionally.

Remember that unconditional love is given without any expectations or limitations. You dont define any scope of your love or that how long will you love a person. This is an eternal feeling which should be kept alive in all circumstances and all situations. Never lose hope and keep on loving people who are dear and close to you, only then you will be able to live a completely satisfied and emotionally balanced life.

By George Wood
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5 IDEAS FOR RESPARKING YOUR RELATIONSHIP BEFORE IT FIZZLES OUT

2006-10-26T03:04:00.000-07:00

Are you sitting at the breakfast table in your old, flannel robe and fuzzy slippers, while your significant other is next to you, reading the paper in his boxers and 8-year-old, holey, white t-shirt that he refuses to throw away? Are you acting like an old married couple after only a few years (or even months), barely acknowledging each other as the new day begins? What could be a very powerful, loving relationship has become dull and dreary before your eyes.

It doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, one of the largest problems in married couples today is caused by the belief that the romantic spark will stay intact without any effort from either party. The truth is just the opposite, and if you want the fire to stay lit, you’d better plan on investing in a lot of matches throughout your life. Here are 5 “matches” to get you well on your way to re-sparking your relationship:

1. Remember to be who you are- before “you” became “we”. One of the easiest ways to do this is to keep your own interests and do your own thing on a regular basis-after all, that’s who they fell in love with. You like hockey, he likes wrestling… you like roller blading, he likes video games… keep it that way! If you spend every waking moment together with someone, no matter how much you love him/her and how perfect you are together, too much of anything will drive you crazy.

2. Keep “dating” your significant other. Just because you live together and money may be a bit tighter than it used to be doesn’t mean the dating should end; a night out on the town will work wonders to break up the monotony. Dinner and a movie, a night of “people watching” at the mall, or sitting in the parking lot of your favorite coffee shop drinking a latte, whatever makes the two of you happy (together) will work wonders.

3. Don’t threaten. No matter how upset, frustrated, or genuinely angry you are, threatening to leave, kick him out, or throw away his holey white t-shirt is definitely a blow below the belt. Every relationship has its ups and downs, and fighting is typically a healthy part.

4. Shut off the TV during dinner. This should be “you and your honey, how was your day” time, not watch the news or Drew Carey rerun time. Remember, you’re looking for quality time, not quantity.

5. Add a few “Extra Sparks” to the bedroom. Yes, even sex can get boring if it’s done the same way all the time. Maybe take a “surprise” weekend trip to a local hotel and never leave the room until you have to go home. How about adding an adult toy or DVD to the usual routine- as long as the two of you are okay with it and have an open mind, as sharing such intimate moments is key to a long, happy marriage.

By Lynn Johnson

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HOW TO TRANSFORM YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH YOURSELF

2006-10-26T03:01:00.000-07:00

Why do we feel unhappy or unfulfilled in our relationships? Why do we complain, judge others or blame them for our problems? Usually, it's because we feel that way about our self.

Our relationships and life experiences are a reflection of our inner world. How we see the world and interpret the actions of others depends on our relationship with our self.

To change your relationships with others, you've got to change your relationship with yourself.

Own your feelings

Accept that you alone are responsible for the way you think and feel. No one can make you feel that way. Own responsibility for allowing yourself to feel the way you do.

Be self-aware

Step back and observe yourself from a distance. How do you react to people and situations? Are you reacting unconsciously from the "wounded child" or responding in a calm, compassionate manner? When you're conscious and aware of your feelings in a situation, you have the power to respond, rather than react.

Be authentic

Be true to yourself. There's no need to put on a mask or a persona for someone else. You are perfect, whole and complete the way you are.

Love yourself unconditionally

Accept yourself for who you are, the parts you like, the parts you don't. You're part of divine creation. When you know and believe that, you will love and accept yourself the way you are.

Never belittle yourself

Never put yourself down or disrespect yourself. Don't allow anyone else to treat you in a way that you don't approve of. Never accept less than what you deserve - from yourself or anyone else.

Take care of yourself first

Remember the airline stewardess telling you to put on your own oxygen mask before helping the person next to you? You can't take care of someone else, your family, or your kids, if you don't take care of yourself first. Make yourself and your health a priority and do what it takes to get well, in every way.

Get in touch with your Higher Self

Your intuition is your Higher Self, the self that knows without knowing, sees without seeing. It is this self that will guide you towards your higher purpose. Any time you spend in meditation, prayer or solitude, cultivating your relationship with your higher self, will be time well spent.

Learn to connect with yourself at a deeper level, find your purpose, and understand your role in the universe. It will transform your relationship with yourself, and with everyone in your life.

By Priya Shah

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CAN YOU KEEP INFIDELITY AT BAY?

2006-10-26T01:56:00.000-07:00

Author: Lynn Johnson

Here are some interesting statistics about in/fidelity:

• A University of Chicago study titled “The Social Organization of Sexuality,” states that as many as a quarter of married men may have been unfaithful to their spouses.

• According to a TIME/CNN poll of Americans' sexual attitudes, 23% of married men agree with the statement, "infidelity is an unavoidable part of married life today."

• Before the cultural homogenization that came with Western colonialism, more than three-quarters of all human societies were polygamous.

The important issue here is to avoid negative feelings for each other.

When you follow a monthly routine of conducting the fidelity health check, you catch a problem in its infancy – increasing the chances of nipping it in the bud, and getting your relationship back on track. Continuing to have fun together, resolving differences, talking openly about attraction, and following rules regarding dating /flirting behavior are some ways to ensure that monogamy remains a priority in your relationship.

A University of Chicago study titled “The Social Organization of Sexuality,” states that as many as a quarter of married men may have been unfaithful to their spouses.
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TEN DO'S AND DON'TS OF A WONDERFUL MARRIAGE

2006-10-26T01:53:00.000-07:00

With the divorce rate as high as it is, you must do everything possible to strengthen and protect your marriage. You can't always have your way or give in to your feelings. You have to discipline yourself to do the right thing. You must do what is in the best interest of your marriage. Here are some fundamental guidelines that can make a huge difference.

1. Be quick to listen and slow to speak. I like to remember that God gave us two ears and one mouth. Use them in this ratio. Listening is truly an art form and it takes practice and commitment. If you don't listen to each other, someone else will.

2. Don't always try to be right. You cannot be right and be married. It is always better to do the right thing than to be right. Trying to always be right will doom the future of your bond. The powerful chemistry that you once felt will be diluted.

3. Never threaten to leave or divorce. Things change between you once you speak these words

and it's hard to correct. Even if you're angry, don't threaten divorce.

4. Be quick to say, "I'm sorry". It amazes me how rapidly a couple is strengthened in love by sincerely saying they are sorry.

5. Don't expect your spouse to believe all the same principles you do. Respect their differences and them. Love them unconditionally.

6. Build your spouse up. Freely give encouragement and praise. Remember, it is better to give than to receive. Most people are starving for kind and uplifting words. Don't let the person you love fall into this category.

7. Always side with your spouse in disputes outside of the marriage, even when they are wrong. Respect the bond of your marriage. Give your spouse the message that "You can always count on me. I'm here for you."

8. Learn to appreciate the things your spouse does and verbalize these often. Don't take your spouse for granted. Thank them for the things they do for the marriage. Cooking, cleaning and bringing home a paycheck are worthy of frequent appreciation.

9. Try to never go to bed angry with your spouse. At the very least, learn to allow a truce between you until you can figure things out. Your marriage is more important than the conflict.

10. Start and end each day by telling your spouse that you love them. Let your eyes and your embrace convey the same message.

By Mark Webb

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WHO WANTS TO MARRY A MILLIONAIRE?

2006-10-26T01:51:00.000-07:00

The song goes ' who wants to be a millionaire I don't', but in reality, I think most of us do. I have a good friend of mine who is a self made millionaire, a rags to riches kind of story, and I asked him one day what if felt like having all that money. His reply astonished me. He said the great thing about having lost of cash was not so he could go shopping and buy more or less whatever he wanted when he wanted, but waking up every day not having to worry about money.

I'd never thought of it like that but it kind of makes sense when you think about it. I mean, I bet a day doesn't go by when I question how in the heck I'm going to pay this month's electric bill, or get the kids their new uniforms before the new term, decorate the house, change the car and so on and so forth. I'm sure you know what I mean. To never have those everyday expenses occupying your mind 24/7 must be a wonderful feeling. It's little surprise then that it's the dream of many to marry a millionaire. Just imagine being released from the bondage of financial burden forever.

I bet there's one heck of a lot more woman get to marry a millionaire than there are men. I remember being at a comedians night once in the West end of London. There was this comic who had the spotlight pointed at a gorgeous blond girl who was sitting next to a podgy middle aged man with a heavily receding hairline. He was joking about how it was impossible his looks played a part in bringing them together and just wondered if the bloke had a bob or two? The girl replied, "He's my husband. He's a lovely man and we simply fell in love despite the age difference". It did actually turn out that this tasty teen had got to marry a millionaire, which had the audience in hysterics as the joker targeted them into his act about gold diggers.

But mockery aside, is there really anything wrong with wanting to marry a millionaire for the sake of money? In Asian countries they look at financial security as a top priority when looking for a partner, and liking or loving someone takes second position to wealth. Obviously, everyone wants to have love, plus emotional, and financial security in their lives, but it's not always possible to get all 3.

My millionaire friend told me that it's not just the money alone that attracts woman to wealthy men. He said they are also impressed with success. Being ambitious, entrepreneurial, and self supporting are very attractive qualities in anyone and woman are drawn to this in a man. He then added that men, on the other hand, appear afraid or threatened by the same qualities in a woman.

There's also this thing about the more you have the more you have to lose. Any fool can inherit money, but keeping hold of it, or successfully reinvesting it to make more of the same, is a completely different ball game. Therefore, anyone who wants to marry a millionaire might want to know if this is old money or new money, inherited, or earned as it could all end in tears.

I'm no millionaire and I doubt that I'll ever mix in circles where I get to meet a millionairess that's interested in me, but I have begun a new career as a net entrepreneur with online stores that are growing from strength to strength. Interesting too, is that when I get talking to woman and that inevitable question comes up which is 'What do you do for a living', I have found that they appear far more interested in me now than when I used to answer with, "Oh, I work on an IT support desk".

I actually earned more on the support desk, but my get-up-and-go attitude seems to impress the ladies more nonetheless. However, I'm also a single Dad, and even if I was a millionaire, it's not the kind of baggage a single woman usually wants to take on.

Call me old fashioned, but I think folks should still marry for love over money and live off fresh air if they have to, but there will always be those that seek to marry a millionaire for money alone.

By Gary Tooth
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HIGH QUALITY WEDDING FAVOR IDEAS

2006-10-26T01:50:00.001-07:00

Typically the weddings that offer quality wedding favors are those that are of rich families or ones that are willing to make favors and the wedding itself into an event that will be remembered for the years to come.

Many times it is the quality wedding favors that are focused on being used in everyday life and also reflect the wedding itself. Even something like a set of magnets that are actually pictures of the newlyweds within a puzzle layout or something like this. These everyday items are some of the quality wedding favors that have been kept for years and are in plain sight. This helps remind those that have been involved of the event and those that have been wedded that special day.

Sometimes the quality wedding favors are items that are very expensive and that can make a challenge to keep the quality wedding favors from dominating the wedding itself in expense. Some people have had wedding favors that have been in the thousands in cost without even thinking about the overall effects that the cost can have on the wedding's cost. This is where someone that is a planner can come into play.

Places have been set up to create quality wedding favors and usually try to get the involvement of someone from the wedding or one of the couples in helping make the favors into something that is part of the wedding and not something that appears to be out of place and not suitable.

Quality wedding favors are common items that are made by the places that set up the wedding if there is a central place that is setting up the wedding. These are usually more expensive means to doing the wedding, but are better suited to keep it in a budget and also in keeping everything tied to a wedding theme. When you have many people that are involved they can lose sight of the components and can even forget some of the important aspects of the wedding. This is common and can cause unneeded stress for those that are running the wedding itself.

Usually, a single family member or a small set of them will coordinate everything through a small group of people that is managing the overall event. Many of these places will let the family members be involved and are skilled enough to not let any aspect be overlooked. These places will know the best quality wedding favors to have. Even if they are not used, they would be a good resource to consult in the creation of these items.

By Jaid Chambers
Jaid Chambers is owner of Top Wedding Favors, a website offering unique wedding favors and unique wedding gifts.
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ELEGANT WEDDING PARTY FAVORS

2006-10-26T01:47:00.000-07:00

With most weddings there is a party or a reception that takes place afterwards. This is something that is very common in weddings that reflect tradition and those that involve large families. There are many weddings that show this as something that is to be shown and is also reflected in the wedding party favors that are given out to those that arrive to the celebration after the blessed event. This is the time that the newly wedded couple can be seen as the fledgling family that they have become.

There are many wedding party favors that are based on the theme of the party and the wedding itself. Most will have ties to the wedding and the party to show that the day itself is an event that should be revered and remembered with appreciation. These are the wedding party favor that are usually saved somewhere special and most of these present will keep them safe and will have them as a something that not reflects the event, but also the families and the couple that were present at the event.

Many of the people that come to the wedding will be present at the wedding party. Typically these are members of the families and close friends. Many of those that are present will show a level of appreciation that is deep and profound. These wedding party favors are something then that should be unique and will show that the presence of those that came to both events has been appreciated as well as a reflection of the events that have happened with both the wedding and the party. These favors are especially common in certain ethnic circles and in certain social groups.

Some people will try to emulate the level of gifts, yet this is a challenge to have wedding party favors that will represent two events that may or may not go as to the plans that have been laid out. This is a challenge that can be difficult at best and to make wedding party favors that are of the same caliber are equally a challenge.

Many weddings will give wedding party favors that are safer and will be based on a simple theme or something that shows thanks, but is not something that is overly expensive. Many times there will be what are called grab bags, these are wedding party favors that are random and are placed in nice bags with confetti and tissue paper covering the items within.

By Jaid Chambers
Jaid Chambers is owner of Top Wedding Favors, a website offering wedding party favors and bridal gifts.
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PLANNING FOR YOUR WEDDING FAVORS

2006-10-26T01:45:00.000-07:00

Wedding planning favors have been gifts that are given to those that assisted with the long trials of getting the blessed union to occur. This is a challenge as in many times the wedding is to happen on a certain date and required a lot of effort in all that are involved in it.

In times of old, the most common wedding planning favors gift was cubes of sugar. These were expensive and were also believed to hold medicinal properties. This made them the ideal gifts to those planning the wedding and those that were at the wedding. When the value and the price as a whole of sugar dropped they were soon replaced with almonds. These were a symbol of the union and were usually given in sets of five within a box and some sort of expensive material or ribbon to bind the box shut. Eventually, the almonds were covered in candy or sugar. This symbolized the union of the marriage with the bitterness of the almond and the sweetness of the candy.

Wedding planning favors have become a strong tradition that has become as diverse as the weddings themselves. Many of the more modern wedding planning favors have become a form of giving thanks instead of a show of wealth. This has made them something that is more expected by those that toil and struggle to get the wedding planned on time. The most common presents are candy, bubbles, or some gift that is based on the theme of the wedding. These gifts are not demanded, but are always appreciated. They are a showing of the gratitude of the families that are involved and show the level of thanks of the bride and the groom.

There are a number of books and websites that give pointers for wedding planning favorsAlone, this is impressive considering that this is but one single aspect of the wedding. This shows the level of importance of the wedding itself and also the importance of the wedding planning favors.

The main things to consider when giving wedding planning favors are if they are based on the wedding theme and if they should be gifts of thanks or ones of a deeper level of appreciation. This may sound extreme, but these are people that are involved in the defining of a day that will have a lasting impact upon the couple to be united in wedlock. Some people give gifts that are expensive as a means of showing their level of appreciation. This is great, but a true gift should be one that is personalized and something that shows that the work that was done is appreciated. That is the spirit behind wedding planning favors, as they are showing to the person that their effort was not something in vain and was something that was given and received from the heart of all those that were involved.

These considerations make wedding planning favors a real challenge, although in many cases they shouldn't be. They should be something that shows that the work that was done is appreciated and also something that signifies that person out from the others that have been involved in the wedding. This is a lot of work and is only a consideration. Perhaps doing this for the ones that are the most involved and common wedding planning favors to those that were just involved, but didn't go above and beyond is a better consideration.

By Jen Carter
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HOW TO WRITE A KILLER ONLINE PROFILE

2006-10-26T01:43:00.001-07:00

Author: Groshan Fabiola

Without any doubt, Internet dating is the simple, quick and fun way to find the best dates possible. Although at first online dating was regarded as a masquerade leading many people to debate its efficiency and predict an unfortunate future for this practice, today the phenomenon enjoys a lot of exposure and positive feed-back, and has become the new trend in dating. Contrary to early beliefs, Internet dating not only works, but also has the power to connect and match people in a blink of an eye! In addition, it allows people to interact in a fun, stimulating and relaxed manner, melting down all inhibitions and constraints characteristic to regular dating.

Amazed by the great efficiency of online dating and impressed by its non-demanding and entertaining nature, increasingly larger numbers of singles nowadays rely on various Internet resources such as Online Personals and Dating Services in their quest for suitable dates, a partner for a long-term relationship or even a life companion. With the right Online Personals website, a properly conceived online advert, lots of confidence and good motivation, singles can find suitable dating partners quickly and effortlessly.

As soon as you become the member of a reliable free Online Personals website, you will receive various member benefits. These include:

-Free Photo Profile (relevant pictures are the best substitute for words)-Ad Free Search (offers the opportunity to browse through the online advert database and find suitable matches)-Ad Response Message (allows members to post comments regarding the content of viewed online adverts)-Unlimited access in chat rooms (the perfect place to find out more about anyone you are interested in)

Once you join the Dating – Online Personals Services that best suit your needs and requirements, the first thing you should do is start creating your own online profile.

Considering the fact that the online profile is a powerful tool for drawing attention, achieving good popularity and interacting with potential dates, it is very important to pay lots of attention when writing this kind of advert. While an interesting online profile gives you a major advantage in finding the right dates, a poorly constructed profile will get you nowhere! Here are some hints on how to write a killer online profile, guaranteed to help you on the track of finding suitable dating partners:

First of all, have fun writing your online profile! When you have fun writing it, chances are the readers will also have fun reading it. Also remember to pay the right attention to your profile – elaborate the relevant aspects regarding your personality and interests, remembering to include all the necessary detail. Although you can edit your profile later on, it is best to submit a good profile right from the start. Focus your writing on your personality and try to bring out the personal traits that separate you from the rest. Be original, inventive and describe yourself in writing just as you would in oral speech, avoiding using pretentious expressions and unneeded emphatic adjectives. Avoid bragging about the size of your bank account, the car you drive or your great looks! These sorts of comments can put you in a bad light, generating undesirable results.

While everyone appreciates a coherent and properly spelled online profile, you shouldn’t fall into extremes and write down an academic (and boring) description of you. In order to obtain the best results, you should use warm, friendly and accessible language. Your online profile should breathe confidence and originality; it should be relevant, interesting and properly constructed.

Don’t hesitate to use humour! Everyone likes someone with a good sense of humour, so it is advisable to insert a few good jokes in your profile. However, be cautious when using this approach - stick to harmless, innocent jokes and humorous comments. If you're not careful about the nature and amount of jokes in your profile, the readers might form a wrong impression and regard you as arrogant or annoying. The same rule applies when you opt for self-deprecating jokes and sarcasm: use them carefully, as your goal is not to emphasize your major defects, but to bring out your qualities and appealing personal traits.

Also, be extra careful when describing your ex-dates and past relationships – it is best not to introduce unnecessary information about “what went wrong”, “who made the most mistakes” and “who ended the relationship”. When describing past relationships you should present a simple, brief story without untactful comments and tasteless details. Try to avoid using inadequate comments when describing your “dream date” as well.

Try to be as honest and sincere as you can! Although many people tend to exaggerate the things they write in their profiles, avoid lying at any cost! Sooner or later, the truth will be revealed and you may lose credibility, jeopardizing an existing relationship and making the task of finding matches more difficult in the future.

Last, but not least, make full use of pictures! A few relevant, high-quality personal photographs will add value to your profile and draw the interest of more potential dates. A good photo can tell a great story and can compensate for a less imaginatively written profile. Choose your best photos and confidently present them to the opposite sex! Confidence and positivity are appreciated by the online dating community, so you have a lot to gain from attaching a set of representative personal photos to your written online profile.

So if you want to find more about online profile or even about online advert, you should visit these links.
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FINDING THE PERFECT ENGAGEMENT RING

2006-10-26T01:41:00.001-07:00

The giving of rings to profess to the rest of the world the love that a couple has for each other can be traced way back into the earliest times. Though there is much debate as to the specific roots of this tradition, everyone agrees on one thing – at some point in a couple’s relationship, the engagement ring becomes an integral part of their relationship. In the Western World, tradition dictates that the woman wear the ring on the fourth finger of the left hand. Some say that this practice can be attributed to the Romans who considered that finger to be the vena amoris or vein of love, going straight to the heart.

Some prefer to surprise their loved one with the ring when they pop the question during the momentous event called the proposal. Others prefer to go shopping for an engagement ring together. Whatever the case, a lot of thought and effort go into picking out the perfect engagement ring.

There is no hard and fast rule as to what an engagement ring should look like or what it should be made of. The most popular type would be the diamond engagement ring. Yet there is a host of other gems and settings that would make a perfectly good engagement ring.

If you are at a loss and you have no clue as to how to go about picking out your engagement ring, you might want to check out Engagement Rings and Diamond Cuts at Engagement Rings Sale.com. There are literally hundreds, maybe even thousands, of web pages on the Internet featuring jewelry. At Engagement Rings, though, you will find all that you need to know about rings. If you have absolutely no idea about what kind of ring you want, then you can start from scratch and read all about different stones – from diamonds to semiprecious stones – and different settings – from gold to platinum. If you have a rough idea of what you want, say a diamond engagement ring, then you will find in depth information on different cuts, sizes, and the like. At Engagement Rings, you will also find assistance on how to buy or design your own engagement ring.

More than the design of the ring, Engagement Rings also give you information on the more practical aspects of engagement rings. You will find helpful information on how to set a budget for your ring, how to stick to it, and still get the ring you want. More so, you will find tips on getting insurance for your ring. Of course, you wouldn’t want to leave such a precious thing uninsured, would you? Anticipating possible future issues, Engagement Rings also offers information on return policies – of course this is done in a general manner as policies would differ from store to store.

Whether you are still toying around with the idea of giving her that ring or you’ve already set your mind on it, give Engagement Rings a visit and make your life a lot easier while deciding on that perfect engagement ring.

By John Caldwell
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10 WAYS TO ALWAYS FIGHT FAIR

2006-10-26T01:37:00.000-07:00

Arguments happen. Not everyone is going to agree with everyone all of the time, nor should they expect to. But when you’re in a relationship, the context of arguments can become very emotional, to a point when you can hurt the other’s feelings. But there are ways that you can learn how to fight fair so that you both learn from the argument instead of ruin a relationship.

1) Don’t lecture

When you’re in an adult relationship, you should treat each other like adults. When one person begins to lecture the other person about what they did wrong, it sets up a power divide that can create animosity and discord. Instead of trying to be ‘right,’ why not try to talk about what’s going on to see how you can fix it?

2) Don’t sweat the small details

When you’re in an argument, it’s not beneficial to fight about little things that probably won’t matter in a few days. Think about something before you bring it up and if you know that you won’t ever remember the point in six months, you probably don’t even need to mention it. The same rule applies for anything that happened well before the argument – stick to the argument at hand and focus only on those details.

3) Don’t take everything personally

When you’re in the heat of an argument, you can become flustered and say things that you might not normally say. Realize that your partner is doing this as well, and that you want to focus on listening for the important stuff that they are saying, and dismissing things that may have been said out of anger.

4) Try not to yell

When emotions are high and tempers are flared, it’s difficult to maintain your composure – especially when your partner is yelling too. But it’s vital to your argument (as well as your health) to keep your voice low and calm. This helps to bring a little peace to the argument and will keep both partners from screaming at each other. And when you can actually hear each other, you’ll be able to focus on the real issues in a more mature manner.

5) Avoid guilt trips

When you’re hurt by someone, the first response is to try to hurt them back with some sort of guilt trip. But while this might seem like a good idea, it’s actually helping to erode your relationship. You want to talk about the issues at hand and not assign blame to them. When you blame someone for something and try to make them feel guilty, you are saying that you are right and they are wrong – and that’s no way to have an argument that gets settled.

6) Don’t attack them

As tempting as it might be to get in some personal attacks when you’re feeling mad, stop for a second to think about how it would make you feel. When you’re trying to heal a relationship bump, you want to focus on the issue at hand, leaving personal attacks out of it. They’re only going to ruin any progress that you have made.

7) Focus on one issue at a time

Like some of the previous advice, the best thing you can do is identify the problem that you are having and deal with that issue alone. When you start to talk about multiple issues, you will begin to confuse them and might not fully address them. You want to both figure out what is upsetting you the most, deal with it, and then move onto something else.

8) Listen

As hard as it might seem to listen during an argument, it can help both of you determine what you need to do. The other person could be quite clearly telling you what they need to fix the problem, but if you’re not listening, you’re not using the solution that has been presented to you.

9) Don’t leave

Another hard thing to do is stick it out in an argument, but it will make sure that you are finishing what you have started. Even if you feel that you can’t take anymore, tell your partner that you have to collect yourself for a moment, but that you will be back to finish the discussion.

10) Be respectful

When you want the argument to be a learning experience instead of a fight, you will want to show your respect of the other person. Pay attention, ask questions as needed, make eye contact, and be calm. Together, you can work through whatever you are dealing with.

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HOW TO FLIRT ONLINE

2006-10-26T01:35:00.001-07:00

Flirting in an online dating service is pretty much just the same as it is in the offline world, except for a few great points, when you are flirting online you can do it with much more confidence and you do not have to worry about things like stuttering or saying something silly because you type everything you say and you can take as long as you need to reply to something.

Here are a few tips for flirting online:

Be pleasant.

Try to be as pleasant as you can about everything you say, you aren't going to make a friend by saying a bunch of negative comments and making remarks about something in an unpleasant manner, just be pleasant when you talk with someone. If you feel as though you really want to say something unpleasant, just don't say anything at all, you know the saying "if you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all", well it's true, if you need to you can just say that you would like to change the subject of conversation.

Listen to the other person.

When you are talking with someone, you should not hold the entire conversation yourself, let the other person put their opinions and views across and make sure they know that you are listening. It can be very frustrating when you say something and the person you are talking to completely ignores your comment, don't make others feel like that and they will like you more for it.

Compliment.

Compliments can be very powerful for letting someone know that you like them and enjoy talking with them, try to compliment the person you are talking to about things like their profile picture, comments they make or anything that you feel deserves one.

Be fun.

Make the conversation fun for both you and the other person, you can do this with simple little things like making short jokes or talking about funny things, just don't let the conversation become to serious until either you both need to talk about something serious. When you first meet someone it would be best to try and keep the conversations fun and light hearted.

Follow up.

When you have a good conversation with someone and you would like to talk to them again, it is a great idea to send them an email or a message thanking them for the chat and to ask if they would like to chat again sometime, if they do want to, you should also initiate the next chat as this will show them that you are interested.

Sean Cash is author of The Lazy Man's Guide To Dating. Get it Free at LazyDater.com.
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ONLINE DATING ADVICE

2006-10-26T01:32:00.000-07:00

Author: Sean Cash

Online dating is a great way to meet many, many people that are looking for the same thing as you, a relationship, with online dating you can meet literally hundreds of people a week and you can do it all from the very same place, the comfort of your own home.

There are a number of things that make online dating appealing to people such as being comfortable, ease of use, you can be anonymous, great for people not good at holding conversations and a large amount of other great reasons. This article will tell you a few things you can do to make your experience with online dating services the best it can be.

Do your research, find out what the best online dating services are and find out as much as you can about them. You can find out details like this by asking friends and family who have used the services, asking on internet forums, searching google, reading articles, there are many ways you can find out what you need to know about a website, all you have to do is search for it and ask others.

Put a lot of effort into your profile. Your profile is a very important part of your account with an online dating service as it is the part that basically introduces you to people, other members will come along, read your profile and if they like what they read in it they will contact you. Having a great profile can really help to start and build solid relationships with people.

Be honest with people. One of the best qualities someone can have is honesty, be honest in everything you say in the online dating communities with both the service and other members, if you wish to form long term, strong relationships with people then it would be a very bad idea to lie to them, I'm sure you would not want them to do it to you. If you ever do not want to answer a question or give out some details, just let the other person know that you feel uncomfortable, this is a much better option than lying.

Be pleasant with other members. Everyone is in these communities for a reason, they want to meet nice people they can talk with and maybe build a relationship with, they do not want to take part in the community in which they have to deal with someone being very unpleasant with them and making comments that are uncalled for, be nice to people, even if they do not deserve it.

Most importantly, be yourself and have a good time, that is why these services are around, so get out there and get into online dating today.

Sean Cash is author of The Lazy Man's Guide To Dating. Get it Free at LazyDater.com.
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HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY

2006-10-26T01:30:00.001-07:00

When you are using online dating services, you will come across people that are not completely honest with you, these are people that you should definitely stay away from, if they cannot be honest with you in these communities then they more than likely will not be honest with you outside of the community. You should not stoop to the level of dishonesty, online dating services are the way they are because of honesty, that is the one thing they need each and every person to be in order to provide the best possible service and it is very important to your experience.

You should always be honest when you are using the online dating services and when you are talking with people through them, honesty is an excellent quality and will play a big part in how successful you are at finding your perfect partner, would you want to be in a relationship with someone that was not honest with you? No, of course you wouldn't and no one would want to be in a relationship with you if you are not honest with them.

Give your honest details. When you signup for certain online dating services, you will be required to provide details about yourself, you should not give untruthful answers and details, always provide the correct details about yourself, there is a high chance that you will be discovered if you give untruthful answers so don't take the risk.

Do not think that you have to be dishonest in certain situations. There may be times when you are using online dating services and you are asked things that you may not want to answer or that you think are inappropriate, well, instead of being dishonest about something rather than giving a truthful answer, it would be a better idea to simply say that you do not wish to answer the question or talk about the subject, this is better than just lying to someone.

Bottom line is be honest. Honesty IS the best policy and is one of the best qualities you could have, it will also be very important to your experience using these services, so remember to be honest in everything you can and if you do not wish to give out an honest answer to certain things, just tell them you don't want to answer it.

In the extreme cases where you feel that you must tell a lie, refrain from doing so. Telling lies only leads to other lies. If the person you are talking to online is worth meeting in person then you should not start the relationship off with a lie. She will find out in the end. They always do. So to protect yourself from such a situation, simply be honest.

Sean Cash is author of The Lazy Man's Guide To Dating. Get it Free at LazyDater.com.
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THE BIGGEST MISTAKES WOMEN MAKE IN RELATIONSHIP

2006-10-26T01:27:00.001-07:00

Jan loved her husband and three children, and had a successful job as a computer programmer. However, her family, her beautiful home, and expensive car were not making her happy. Jan felt guilty for being miserable and complaining to her loyal husband. "After all," she told me at her first counseling session, "I have more than others, and much more than my parents did.

Why am I so depressed?"

To assist Jan to find her answers, I guided her through a process I developed called HART, which stands for Holistic and Rapid Transformation. I have a favorite saying, "Close your eyes and see clearly." So I said, "Jan, I believe that your answers are inside of you. So close your eyes and relax so that we can explore your issues." Then I guided Jan to visualize both her mother and herself standing in front of her, and to tell me if she noticed any similarities. Jan replied, "Yes, we look a lot alike and we both seem inhibited." Then I asked Jan, "What do you want to say to either one or both of them?" Jan said, "Mom and Jan lighten up. Do what you love doing. Be happy!"

With those freeing thoughts, Jan automatically took a deep breath of relief. Then I continued, "Jan, do you see any differences between your mother and yourself?" She commented, "Yes. My mother stayed home with my sister and I, and like a dutiful wife took care of her husband and the house. Whereas I have a profession and I earn lots of money."

"However, Jan," I continued, "is computer work what you really want to do?" "Not really," said Jan. "In fact, I hate it. It's boring!" When I asked Jan why she was doing that kind of work, she informed me that when she had married her husband, Bob, she had agreed to bring in a certain amount of money too so that they could have their high standard of living. Jan admitted that her expensive home in her upper class neighborhood felt like a trap. She felt boxed in with no way out. "Growing up in a lower class neighborhood wasn't any fun either. I had thought that working hard and raising my standard of living would make me happy. But it hasn't."

"Was your mother happy, Jan?" I inquired.

"No, not really. When I was a teenager my mother shared with me that she always wanted to be a dancer but had given up her dream for her family. Her husband, my father, had insisted that she be the ‘good wife'. Mom felt that she had to follow her mother's model of stifling her desires to play the role of wife and mother. When I asked my mom if she was sorry that she had made that choice, she told me, with an unemotional voice, that she was grateful for her good, secure life, but felt as though she had given up something.

Mom even admitted to me that she probably took out her resentments on her husband by withholding affection and spending lots of his money. She was feeling guilty for the times her resentments caused her to be impatient with my sister and I."

When I asked Jan what decision she was making from that conversation, she said, "I'm deciding that women have to play their roles as wife and mother. But Helene," she went on to explain, "I thought I had also made the decision that I would be different. I would work outside of the home and have more freedom than my mother did."

"You did," I replied, "But you seem to be doing what you think you should be doing to make money, and to please your husband and your children, and not what you really want to do. Both you and your mother made what I have noticed to be the biggest mistake women make in relationships. Both of you gave up your dream, gave up being who you really are, and that is why you are unhappy. In a way, we can say that you chose to give your power to your husbands and then resented them for it."

Jan related to what I was saying and then admitted to me that her secret dream was to be an actress. "Ever since I was a little girl," Jan shared, "I loved being on the stage. I especially liked to play funny parts and make people laugh. Everyone is so serious, we need to laugh more. Golly, I just realized that ever since I got married, I automatically became one of those serious folks."

When I asked Jan why she didn't pursue her dream, she replied, "I didn't think that I could make enough money being an actress. Bob didn't give me much support in that direction either. He persuaded me to keep my well-paying position."

"Jan," I continued, "Have you been resenting him for not encouraging you to follow your dream?"

"Oh yes!" exclaimed Jan. "I don't get up to make him breakfast and my dinners are pretty bad, if I do say so myself. I also won't keep to the budget and I don't have much sexual desire. Gee, I just realized that I'm doing just what my mother did, including getting angry at my sons. What should I do?"

I suggested to Jan that she bring Bob into the office so that she can share her truth with him, and I can help him hear her and work out some win-win solutions. Jan was hesitant to make an appointment with Bob until after she succeeded in overcoming her other blocks to being an actress. She had discovered in the counseling process that she unconsciously didn't feel good enough or that she didn't deserve to be happy. (Those are very common fears that stop many people from going after their dream.)

When Bob finally did come in, Jan was feeling clearer and more powerful, and she asked Bob for what she wanted. Jan told him all about her dream and admitted to resenting him for not supporting her. By the end of the session, Bob was understanding his wife better and was willing to do what it took in order for her to be happy. I acknowledged Bob for being flexible and for truly loving his wife. I said, "When you have a mature love for someone, you truly want them to be happy."

I was not surprised but I was pleased when I received an invitation in the mail to attend Jan's first performance. She wrote a note that it was not a big part but she knew that it was a good beginning. What a joy it was to see Jan glowing on the stage. Even though I knew that it was scary for her, she looked very excited and as if she belonged up there. At the end of the delightful performance, Bob came over to give me a hug. He also looked a lot happier and was obviously very proud of his wife.

By Helena Rothschild

Helene Rothschild, MS, MA, MFT, is a Marriage, Family Therapist, intuitive counselor, author, speaker, and teacher. Her new book, All You Need Is HART! Create Love, Joy, and Abundance-Now!" is a unique guide to Holistic And Rapid Transformation. She offers phone sessions, teleclasses, a self-help on-line program, inspirational books, e-books, MP3 audios, tapes, cards, posters, independent studies, and a free newsletter. http://www.lovetopeace.com/ , 1-888-639-6390.
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MANAGING YOUR FEAR WHILE IN A RELATIONSHIP

2006-10-26T01:23:00.000-07:00

It can be tough to manage your fears and anxieties while in a relationship. Maintaining a relationship is tough enough let alone having to deal with your anxieties. As a result, here is a list of techniques and suggestions on what to do in managing your fears and anxieties while being in a relationship.

Learn as much as you can in managing anxiety and depression. There are many books and information that will educate you on how to deal with fear and anxiety. Share this information with the person who is struggling. Education is the key in finding the answers your looking for in managing your fears. In addition, be understanding and patient with the person struggling with their fears. Dealing with depression and anxiety can be difficult for the person so do not add more problems than what is already there.

Communication is the key in a relationship. Do not assume anything. When encountering stressful situations, always remember to get all of the facts of the given situation. Gathering the facts can prevent us from relying on exaggerated and fearful assumptions. By focusing on the facts, a person can rely on what is reality and what is not.

Remember take a deep breath and try to find something to do to get your mind off of you anxieties and stresses. A person could take a walk, listen to some music, read the newspaper, watch TV, play on the computer or do an activity that will give them a fresh perspective on things. This will distract you from your current worries.

Challenge your negative thinking with positive statements and realistic thinking. When encountering thoughts that make you feel lonely or depressed, challenge those thoughts by asking yourself questions that will maintain objectivity and common sense. For example, some people may think that if they fail in their current relationships then they will always be alone. This is not true. Even if your alone today does not mean that you will be alone all the time. No one can predict the future with one hundred percent accuracy.

A technique that is very helpful is to have a small notebook of positive statements that make us feel good. Whenever you come across an affirmation that makes you feel good, write it down in a small notebook that you can carry around with you in your pocket. Whenever you feel depressed, open up your small notebook and read those statements.

Sometimes, it helps to be able to talk to someone about the anxieties in our relationships. If possible, talk to a professional who can help you manage your fears and anxieties. They will be able to provide you with additional advice and insights on how to deal with your current problem. By talking to a professional, a person will be helping themselves in the long run because they will become better able to deal with their problems in the future.

Dealing with the fears and anxieties of a relationship can be sometimes be overwhelming. It takes persistence and a lot of practice to be able to manage our fears. Remember that all you can do is to do your best each day, hope for the best, and take things in stride.

By Stanley Popovich

Stan Popovich is the author of, A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear, an easy to read book that presents a overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: http://www.managingfear.com/
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SPEED DATING - THE QUICK, SIMPLE AND FUN WAY OF FINDING YOUR MATCH

2006-10-26T01:20:00.000-07:00

For people who don’t have the time to go out every night in search for the perfect date and people who simply want to have some fun and experiment with something new, speed dating is the best choice! Eliminating the constraints of “formal dating” and allowing attendants to find their match in a casual, fun and exciting environment, speed dating events are enjoyed by everyone, regardless of age or social group. Regarded as the quick and fun way of finding a potential partner, speed dating has recently become extremely popular in many places in the UK, drawing thousands of curious people to these kind of events. In London, Manchester, Birmingham and Leeds, speed dating has become a new craze among the young and middle-aged, being considered the perfect alternative to regular dating. If you wish to enjoy a night out, meet and interact with dozens of interesting, exciting and appealing people and also have lots of fun in the process, a speed dating event should fit the bill!

The efficiency of speed dating lies in its simplicity. Speed dating involves inviting an equal number of males and females to a certain venue and offering them the opportunity to interact and know each other through a succession of one-on-one mini dates When you find yourself among a large number of attractive and interesting singles of the opposite sex, all of whom who you end up talking to, it’s virtually impossible not to find a suitable match! It’s the simple and exciting nature of speed dating that has given the practice its present popularity and exposure. Although speed dating attendants follow a set of rules and rotate around so that they meet everyone, these events take place in a very relaxed and unconstrained manner, allowing everyone to have fun and fully enjoy the experience.

Although speed dating is a relatively new concept in Europe, the phenomenon has achieved a lot of exposure in the last few years, rapidly becoming a new trend among singles in search of fun, excitement and not to mention, the perfect match. Speed dating was first conceived in the US in the nineties, the innovative practice enjoying great popularity and positive feedback among all categories of age. The concept has been quickly adopted by many European countries as well. Since it was introduced and promoted in London and several other major UK cities, speed dating has drawn the attention of many different dating agencies which have given the concept its great current reputation.

If you are interested in enrolling in speed dating events, it is important to choose the right dating company in order to ensure that you will obtain the best results. You should look for speed dating organizing agencies in London, as they are renowned for the quality of their services. Once you have found the right company, you can enrol for a variety of speed dating events organized in different locations in the UK. In order to get the most out of such events, you may want to attend speed dating in major cities such as Manchester, Birmingham or Leeds. Speed dating is very popular in places like Manchester, Birmingham and Leeds, and by choosing to attend events in these locations you will find your match in a flash. Stick with the right speed dating company, enrol for events organized in the locations mentioned above and you are guaranteed to find your match and also have lots of fun in the process!

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12 WAYS TO PERSUADE WITHOUT MANIPULATING

2006-10-26T01:17:00.000-07:00

There is a fine line between persuading someone and trying to manipulate the way that they think. And when you’re in a loving relationship, you should be focusing on the positive aspects of persuasion and discussion, rather than ways to trick someone into agreeing with you.

Honesty is truly the best policy

It can’t be stressed enough that being honest about what you want is that best way to start influencing your relationship because it creates a no-games way of looking at problems and conflicts. Instead of your partner wondering what you mean, they will know exactly what you need.

Know what you want

And do you already know what you want? Many times, manipulation is easier for those that don’t really know what they want to achieve from a discussion. In order to avoid this, you will want to make sure that you have a clear idea of what you want share with your partner and what you want to achieve as a result.

Acknowledge what they want

But it’s not just about you either. You need to be sure that you know what your partner wants in the situation as well. Ask them to be clear about the way that they want your relationship to be, and then be sure to acknowledge that in your persuasion. A partnership includes two people.

Realize that you can’t change minds

You won’t always be able to change their mind, nor should that be a goal of yours. What you do want to do is persuade them to look at a situation or problem in the way that you are. They might have other ideas that they want to share with you; other perspectives that you might not understand. And from their own way of thinking, they might never change their way of looking at things.

Honesty anyone?

Once again, when you refuse to build a relationship on lies, you can move from conflict into resolution much more efficiently. When you find yourself in a lie, you will want to explain yourself immediately and then correct the wrong statement.

Information is best

When you want to correct a problem or smooth a situation in a relationship, you will want to get the facts straight so that you can present your case accurately. Instead of using facts that would help your persuasion, you will want to use the real facts. For example, instead of saying the other person never wants to do anything, show examples of how this happens.

Let them talk too

But again, this isn’t all about you. You need to hear what your partner thinks and feels as well to start moving toward some sort of compromise. Ask them what they think about what you have said and whether there’s anything else that they might want to add. Try to engage them in dialogue so it’s not a one-sided conversation.

Admit when you’re wrong

And you will be wrong in your thinking or ideas, so be sure to admit that. Partners like it when you admit to being fallible. We all make mistakes and we’re much more likely to listen to those that admit to doing so.

Honesty once more

When you have ulterior motivations for your discussions with a partner, you are creating a situation in which only one of you is benefiting from a promise or a solution. Instead of what kind of situation, why not be honest about what you’re really trying to achieve?

Choose common ground

If you choose a location for your discussion that you are comfortable in, but your partner is not, you will automatically put them on the defensive. Instead, choose a place that is neutral and gives no one the advantage. Or if you’re the one that wants to have the discussion, have your partner choose where you will talk.

Pick the right time

Being rushed or tired is not a good way to feel during an important discussion. You want to choose a time that works out best for the both of you. This might mean that you both have to clear your schedules or make time available – but it creates the best possible conditions.

Honesty always

Just in case you didn’t already realize it, being honest is the only way to avoid manipulation. Even the tiniest infraction will lead to further distrust of each other.

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RELATIONSHIPS TAKE TIME BUT WILL ENRICH YOUR LIFE

2006-10-26T01:12:00.000-07:00

A good relationship is hard to come by, it is something that takes time and dedication. You have to know what you are looking for when going into a relationship and it helps when both parties are on the same track. If you are ready for dating, love, and starting a relationship, then you will need to know some things.

Everyone is different. You will have your own thoughts of what that perfect mate will be like; however, you may not find that perfect mate the first time or even second time around. A relationship is something that you have to take slowly. You have to build up to a relationship, through dating first. Once you have dated and know that you are compatible you can then start getting past dating into a relationship stage. It will take some time, but it will be something that you will know when its time to move on in the relationship.

You need to make sure you are getting the love you deserve when you are in any relationship. You don't want to be in a relationship where communication is not happening. You don't want to fight about everything. This is not a good way to get the love and respect that you deserve. You have to be able to see these things and act on them. You are the one that wants to be happy. If you are not happy with the way things are going then a relationship for the two of you may not be in the cards. With that in mind, no relationship is easy. It takes work and some time. You will know when things are right and when they are not.

Saving a relationship that is in trouble can be a hard task, but some relationships are worth saving. You will know if your relationship falls in this category. If you are just having some bad times, these times will pass. It is not good to throw away a good thing when all you need to do is reconnect and get past the bad times. You will take it one step at a time, in order to save the relationship.

There is nothing easy about any of the above mentioned things. It is hard work to keep a relationship in good standings. You both have to be willing to work at it. You can never just let it work itself out, for that is just a cause for trouble. The best thing to do is sit down and talk about it. Be ready to listen and understand what each of you are saying. Then come to an agreement on how to fix those problems. You have to try in order to succeed.

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ARE YOU OPEN TO LOVE?

2006-10-26T01:09:00.000-07:00

"Are You Open To Love?" I ask. You say "Of course! What kind of question is that?, who isn't?". Isn't it amazing that we think that and yet, there are millions of people who say they want love yet when it comes to the crunch they are not really open to it?

We could each have amazing qualities inside us. We all have beautiful qualities this world needs. It might be our ability to sincerely show our compassion. It might be our ability to make another person feel like a million bucks, or our ability to cook like the world's best chef, or our ability to just hold another human being in such a way that they feel wanted, or our ability to light up the other person's heart with our smile. It varies and the list is endless. How can another human being see our inner qualities and get to enjoy our abilities if we are closed for love?

What do I mean by that? Well, everyone needs love. We all feel lonely now and then. So we think we need love and go around our daily chores thinking we will bump into the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with. Occasionally we meet people we think we like and get along. We think, "wow! He or she seems to be exactly the one I am looking for" etc.

Time goes by and we get to know that person who seem to fit our bill of qualities we want in a lover / mate. We get to a point where we need to make conclusive decisions regarding the relationship. We need to decide whether to get more closer to this person and get him or her committed to you either as an exclusive boyfriend or girlfriend or move in or get engaged etc.

The moment arrives when you are put on the spot to make a decision to get committed to the decision to move forward to the next step. You panic. You come up with all kinds of excuses not go to the next step. You wonder why you can't seem to make the decision to go forward. You can't seem to put the finger on why this is the case. On a deeper level, we are sometimes confused about love. This can be due to several reasons. Some are as follows;

Here are some of the reasons because of which we may not be open to love;

1) Painful Past Experiences - We want love but we don't want to be too close to someone because of our past painful experiences associated with having a loving relationship. We associate love with painful experience because that's what happened in the past. We think that what happened in the past is going to happen in the future. We think that past equals the future.

2) Lose of IndependenceOn some level we believe that opening the door for love means loss of our own independence. We think that by letting the other person into our lives we might lose our own way of life. We might be forced to do certain things or our way of life may have to be changed etc

3) Lack Of Time - We believe that our times through the day have to be shared with the other person, we might be required to communicate with the other person on a regular basis even if we don't feel like it. We think that they might take up our daily time especially if we are already at a crunch for time to do what we need to do in our existing life.

4) Fear Of CommitmentWe think that by committing to the love from this one person we might be committed to that person for life and it might appear final for our decision on our lover for life. Although the "Fear Of Commitment" is can be due to several factors, simply put this may also influence whether we are open to love coming into our life as well.

5) Busy LifestyleOur lifestyle whether it is existing work related, habit related or our friendship network related may not lend itself to a new person coming into our life. We think that by letting love into our life we have to change our lifestyle dramatically which we might regret later on, so we decide not to be open to love

6) Financial ReasonsWe somehow believe that having new love into our life, we might be required to spend more money on ourselves whether to make us look good by dressing better or spend more money on the other person in terms of gifts, dinner or other activities which may cost money. We think the new love may interfere with our work and time, which we think can be spent on making our finances better

7) Our Need To Remain Who We AreMost of us have moments when we shy from change. We all want to remain true to who we are. We don't want to change our habits for anyone, especially if our habits and values are making us happy as a person. We think that letting love into our life, the other person may make us change who we are. So we remain closed to new love or not letting our existing love come closer to us. We think that for the moment we feel better because nothing will change the status quo of who we are if we do not let love into our life.

8) Fear Of IntimacyWe all have our inherent fear for certain things in our life. This may vary from fear of dark places, fear of flying to fear of getting closer to someone emotionally or even physically at intimate moments. When we are afraid of being intimate with another person in a romantic way, the fear itself prevents us from being open to love

9) Lack of Self EsteemOur sense of personal worth or self-esteem will have a dramatic impact on how sociable we are. How we behave in social situations with other people whether it is with the member of the same sex or the opposite sex. You will find that lower the self-esteem, lower the chances of us being "open to love". On some level our self worth and our perception of what / whom we deserve prevents us from being open to new and exciting love coming into our life

10) Perfectionist MentalityHow many of us wait for the perfect moment to do certain things? We think that if we do it in a hurry we might mess it up and AVOID doing those things?

Solution? We need to explore each of the above factors and think through why we are not open to. The above reasons list can differ from one person to another as each one of us are from varying cultural, family, belief systems, value systems and other social conditioning. So the above can vary from one factor being applicable to you to more than one or even all of them being applicable to you. Only you can self explore which ones ring a bell when you look deeper inside yourself to find ways to overcome the above issues and be open to love.

Joshua Danicio is a contributing writer and part of the Editorial Team at CupidClinic.com "Where Cupid Comes To Learn About Love". We feature free dating & relationship advice from talented writers to help you find and keep your love. We welcome other talented writers to submit their work at our site to promote their skills and business
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LEARN THE SEDUCTIVE ART OF WRITING A LOVE LETTER

2006-10-26T01:05:00.001-07:00

Personal, handwritten love letters are an ideal way to express your feelings to someone. They are not difficult to create if you are true to your feelings and give it some careful thought. Write what moves you best, be sincere and you will be sure to bring a smile to your love's face.

Waxing Poetic

Anyone can just copy a favorite love poem and then send it off. What will touch their heart best is something of your own design. You can use the example of another poem, changing the words around to suit your expression.

You can take several different poems, in fact, and then take what you love most from each of them to create your own. This takes some practice, Try starting with just one sentence. Change the words around to reflect your own personal feelings and then go on from there.

Personalize a Blank Card

You can buy beautiful and artistic cards that have only an outside picture and a blank sheet inside for you to create your own prose. Take your time and write out a verse that you think will be meaningful to your loved one.

Practice first with a scrap piece of paper and then when you have it just perfect, carefully print or write it out in the inside of the card.

Leave Your Note where it will be found

It will be a nice surprise for your loved one to find your note, unexpected. Don't hide it so well that he or she won't find it! Leave it in a common place that you are sure he or she will go looking. When they find it they can enjoy it all alone.

Own your Prose

Make sure you get good credit for writing your loved one. Don't think that if you mark your note "anonymous" that she will just know it is from you.

Give a Gift

Include a little something that can be inserted inside the card or letter. A small gift will make your love note extra meaningful.

The romantic act of expressing your love in writing is always a special gift to receive and this becomes a keepsake for a lifetime!

Place your Love Notes in Creative Places

Adding the element of surprise to your love note is always special to the receiver. Here are some really creative suggestions about where you can leave your handwritten love note:

In their shoes, in their lunch bag everyday, under their pillow, when they travel just insert one into their luggage, in their laptop bag at night to be discovered first thing in the morning at work, for the reader: in their bookmarked page, on their car windshield/wipers, you get the idea?

By now we all realize that one of the most important things to remember in a committed relationship is to keep the romance alive and thriving.

It is all too easy to take one another for granted after a period of time passes. Doing this, though, will not produce a strong love life and is not conducive for ongoing passion.

Easily the most effective way of keeping your relationship fresh and filled with love and appreciation is to simply nurture romance.

By Abbas Abedi
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WANT CLOSENESS - AVOID THESE 11 INTIMACY KILLERS

2006-10-26T00:08:00.000-07:00

As human beings, we all have an innate need to be close to someone. But sometimes the very thing we desire is the opposite of what we have. Some of us subconsciously sabotage the relationships we want because of our fear of intimacy. Sometimes we unknowingly and unwillingly drift apart because of our inability to engage in the delicate dance of intimacy. Others avoid intimacy altogether because the pain of past failures is too great.

Intimacy, physical and emotional closeness, is tough to navigate our way through. It takes skill, hard work and commitment. I wish I could tell you it is easy once you know how. True intimacy is tough to achieve, but who says the best gifts are easy to obtain? In all honesty, I am certainly no expert on how to maintain and nurture closeness, but I have learned 11 things that will definitely kill intimacy in a relationship.

Dishonesty and Silence

Intimacy requires honesty and openness. It only takes one lie to destroy the trust in a relationship. To be close to someone, we need to be able to share what is true and real about us. And we must be willing to hear someone else's truth. Sometimes we think that it is best to not say anything at all if it means it may hurt our partner. So we silently hang on to our truth or share our truth with the wrong people. When we do this, there is no opportunity for the relationship to grow with integrity.

Lack of Trust

Sometimes there is no dishonesty in the relationship, but still a lack of trust exists. Perhaps healthy trust has never been a part of your life, or maybe a painful event in life has fractured your ability to trust. A person must heal from their past and base their decision to trust someone on the present actions of a person. Deem people trustworthy until proven otherwise.

Desire to Change People

True intimacy necessitates acceptance. Having acceptance of yourself and your partner is a powerful indicator of love. It doesn't mean you have to like everything, but you need to let go of the need to change another person. When we lack acceptance of another person's qualities, our tendency is to control. That control manifests itself in disapproving feelings, and sometimes even pressuring people to change. To feel close to another person, you must feel unconditionally accepted for who you are.

Inability to Express Your Needs and Feelings

Unfortunately we, as humans, do not have the power to read minds. Therefore, we have to rely on our partners to communicate with us and vice versa. It is each person's responsibility to express their needs and feelings. By sharing who we are and what's important to us, we significantly increase our chances of having our needs met. On the other hand, if we repress our needs and feelings, we shut the other person out of our world, and make intimacy impossible.

Not Listening

Communication is a two-way street. Many of us have no problem talking, but listening poses more of a challenge. Listening requires us to hear our partners with our heart. An added step to listening is acknowledging what we have heard. Are you really hearing your partner's feelings and needs? Or are you thinking about how your partner is wrong or how you want to defend yourself? If your partner is constantly communicating the same need or feeling to you over and over, chances are you are not hearing your partner with your heart.

Self-Centeredness

The minute you decide to enter into a committed relationship, the moment self-centeredness becomes a thing of the past. Intimacy requires there to be a balance between self, the other person and the relationship. It's not about just you anymore. You have to take the feelings and needs of the other person and the relationship into consideration. Decisions about money, routines, free time, children, time, etc. now have to include your partner's input.

Lack of Respect

Chances are if you lack respect for your partner, your intimate life probably suffers. To respect means you hold a high opinion and highly value yourself or another person. You appreciate and show consideration for people. The closeness of intimacy needs a general feeling of respect for self and your partner. It also means you need to behave in a way that deserves respect. You cannot expect your partner to respect you if your actions do not warrant respect.

Imbalance of Power

There cannot be one person in a relationship that sees him or herself as more important than his or her partner. A relationship consists of two people with perceived equality. That doesn't mean one person isn't smarter, more knowledgeable about certain topics, or has greater strengths in certain areas. It means the difference is not highlighted, flaunted or disrespected. Having a balance of power requires each person to have equal say in a discussion. It means the needs and feelings of each person are equally important.

Unhealthy Arguments

All couples have disagreements. The intimacy in your relationship will suffer if you let your arguments get out of hand. Angry words, unresolved arguments, and inflicting emotional and physical pain will destroy intimacy. Couples that are close learn how to respectfully and healthily resolve their arguments.

Absence of Touch

Although physical intimacy is just a part of total intimacy, it is a very important part. If you don't make a point to hug, kiss, and experience sexual intimacy, your level of intimacy will be affected. You can still be close, but touch adds extra feelings of warmth, safety and love.

Extreme Separateness

So many couples, after time, begin to live separate lives. Either their differences separate them or unawareness or lack of intention cause them to drift apart. Intimacy requires people to spend time together and share in each other's life. A relationship is like a garden. You need to take the time to pull the weeds, fertilize and water the flowers. In other words, it requires time, love, and a commitment to keep the bad to a minimum.

If you want your relationship to be intimate, love and respect one another, do your best to meet one another's needs, share your dreams and feelings, and avoid these eleven intimacy killers.

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ARE YOU RUINING YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

2006-10-26T00:06:00.001-07:00

While most of us would like to think that our failed relationships were caused by someone else, that isn’t necessarily the case. Taking the initiative to consider what you might have done to contribute to the downfall is a great first step towards actually repairing a relationship. Blame doesn’t really help fix a relationship, but taking responsibility for your actions does.

Are you always right?

One of the biggest problems in a problem relationship is the idea that one person is right and the other is wrong. Are you the one that always insists that you are right? If so, you might be harming your relationship more than helping it. By trying to create a right and a wrong party, you are increasing the split in your relationship and probably causing more animosity from your partner.

Solution

The next time you want to point out that you are right about something in an argument or a discussion, stop and count to ten to yourself. This will slow down your brain and take the focus off the moment at hand. In most cases, you will see that saying that you were right probably isn’t going to add to the situation. How would you feel if your partner did the same to you?

Are you unable to let go of the past?

Many women have a terrific memory that can retain old incidents for long periods of time. However, when you constantly bring up old arguments and issues, you aren’t really solving the problem that you are having in the present. You are distracting the discussion from the real issue and hindering any progress.

Solution

When you feel that you want to bring up something from the past, preface what you are saying with, “I’m not sure if this is relevant or not, but let me say this aloud.” This will show how you are thinking about things, but will also admit that you might not be on the correct thought process. After saying what you want to say, then you can say aloud that it’s really not relevant, so it’s not something that needs discussion.

Are you loud when you want to prove your point?

Being louder doesn’t necessarily make you right. When you raise your voice, you tend to forget about the words that you are trying to relate or your partner and your partner may just decide to not listen. Whatever you say might be dismissed as too emotional, rather than anything that might help the argument or discussion at hand.

Solution

There are several things that you can do when you start to feel your volume rise. Many couples like to give each other signals when this is starting to happen, while others find that stopping and breathing a few deep breaths can stop the increased yelling. You can also leave the room for a moment to collect yourself and then try to lower your voice when you return.
Do you accuse them of not doing things right?

It’s really easy to turn every wrongdoing into someone else’s fault when you’re upset or hurt.

However, when you begin to blame your partner for everything that is wrong, you are not taking responsibility for your own role in the argument or issue. Accusing someone when you’re upset is usually an accusation without merit.

Solution

It’s best to take your focus off of the person that you are talking with and place it more on the issue at hand. When you start to look at arguments in black and white instead of emotional terms, you will be able to find solutions that don’t hurt each other in the process.

By Cucan Pemo

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HOW TO IDENTIFY PROBLEMS IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP

2006-10-26T00:01:00.000-07:00

Before you can choose the proper persuasion techniques in your relationship, you will need to consider what you want to change and what is causing the problem in the first place. Sometimes it’s not as simple as wanting something to change, you need to know what you’re up against.

What’s happened to you?

A lot of couples can undergo relationship troubles when there’s been a significant event that has affected them. The death of a family member, a pet, health problems, legal troubles, drug problems, and mental issues can all contribute to problems in a relationship when they’re not sufficiently handled. Take the time to inventory your past few months to see what may have been the trigger for the problems that you’re having right now. Think about the time frame of the problems that you are facing. Has it been a recent thing or have you been having troubles for a longer period of time?

What’s going on?

Having problems is so vague that you might want to sit down and really define what has changed for you in your relationship. Instead of saying that things aren’t good or that you wish things were better, what is happening right now that isn’t something that you like? Are you talking less? Are you seeing each other less? Is one partner abusive? Try to figure out the action that is causing stress in your relationship so that you have a focal point for further discussions.

This isn’t just about you

While you’re at it, you need to start asking your partner as well what they think the problem is. Sometimes you need that outside perspective in order to get a handle on the direction that you need to go in. Try to approach your partner not from the perspective of blame, but rather from the viewpoint that you want to make things better. This is not the time to say that someone is wrong, but that you want to figure out what is making you both unhappy.

Deciding that you’re the only one in the relationship whose opinion matters is an easy way to cause more problems – even when you don’t actually think that. Your partner does not want you to attack them for things that have happened and it can feel like an attack when you’re the only one doing the talking. You need to take the time to listen to your partner and really come to an understanding about what they need from you.

And what if your partner doesn’t think anything is wrong?

An interesting situation that you might find yourself in is when your partner decides and answers that nothing is wrong. And what do you do then? When your partner is obviously unhappy – distant, avoiding you, etc. – you will want to approach him or her differently. Sometimes making a date to talk and to figure out what you’re not happy will be all the impetus for your partner to start revealing what’s going on in their head.

They need to feel like you aren’t going to attack them for having problems with your relationship, so make sure that you allow them to have whatever feelings they have without saying that they are wrong. What you want to do is tell them that you’re genuinely interested in making your relationship better and that by finding out what they think, you’ll be able to make them happy as well.

When you have figured it out

It can take time to really determine what the real problems in a relationship are, but once you do, you need to take action immediately. This could come in the form of discussing each other’s needs and what solutions they might propose as well as sitting with your own feelings to see what solutions you might have for the other person. It all comes down to communicating with each other and seeing what the relationship needs to become stronger.

Some couples find that talking works well to solve problems, while others like to write down their feelings and then share them. Whatever seems to allow you both to express your feelings honestly and accurately – do that. What’s great about relationship problems is that most of them can be solved with a little patience and a lot of talking. You just need to get started.

By Cucan Pemo
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THE TRADITION OF THE GOLD ENGAGEMENT RING

2006-10-25T23:58:00.001-07:00

While an engagement ring is worn alone for a time, it is meant to join a wedding ring one day.

The traditional wedding ring is gold, which, by default makes the gold engagement ring a tradition. Some Marriage traditions go back to prehistory. The first brides were stolen by their future husbands and carried off to neighboring villages where they were treated as the property of the men who took them. Eventually, life in ravaging hordes was replaced by life in farming communities and a man's property included cattle and other animals.

When the time came to include a wife in the household, her acquisition was the same as for any other living property - the man traded for her. Usually this meant offering cows or goats for the daughter of another farmer. In some cultures, the deal was not finalized until the actual swap of "possessions" in case a better deal is offered. As the promise of a deal became more trustworthy, a token was given to seal the deal. Eventually, that token became the engagement ring. In ancient Egypt, married women only wore a pair of gold bracelets as jewelry. This became smaller and worn on a finger instead of a wrist.

The ancient Greeks wore the gold wedding band on the index finger, while Indians preferred the thumb. The Romans believed that a vein ran from the ring finger of the left hand directly to the heart. This finger was thought to have great power and became the home for the wedding band. At times, the wedding ring became the gold engagement ring. In some centuries, the ring was first worn on the left hand then switched to the right hand for the wedding. Later, that was reversed with the gold engagement ring worn on the right hand and moved to the left hand at the wedding service.

The Irish Claddagh ring shows two hands surrounding a heart topped by a crown. The symbols represent friendship, love and eternity bringing the marriage relationship into modern times. This ring demonstrated respect for the intended bride instead of ownership. The ring began being worn in the 16th century when it was worn as the gold engagement ring, turning the heart toward the body during the wedding. The Gimmal, named for the Latin word for "joining," was made of three bands that fit together. As a gold engagement ring, the bands were separated. Each of the couple wore one band while the intended wedding witness wore the third. At the ceremony, the bands were united and worn by the wife. The gold engagement ring symbolizes purity, eternity and cherished treasure. That's the best gold engagement ring tradition of all.

By Tony Hartmann
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TIRED OF THE DATING GAME AND READY FOR MARRIAGE

2006-10-25T21:43:00.000-07:00

Has the subject of marriage come up a lot lately? Does it seem like everyone is talking about when you should get married except you? And while you like the idea of an wedding, you're just not sure that you are ready to make that sort of life long commitment. But how do you know when is best?

While the average marrying age for men is 27 and 25 for women age shouldn't be the deciding factor in a decision to marry. Believe it or not the overwhelming feeling of soul searing love is not a good reason to get married either. Marriage is not something to be taken lightly and deciding if you are ready to get married should be well considered.

Of course, most couples look forward to that enthralling moment when one of them - still usually the man - proposes. However, before that time comes a couple should already have had deep discussions about important matters which will be central to their life together. After a decision is made to marry it may also be useful to have premarital counseling.

While there is no doubt that a wedding is a joyous event, it is important to remember that it is the beginning of a life together and so your planning needs to include time spent focussing on the relationship between you and your partner. Have you discussed your views on money? Do you agree about politics? What is your view towards family? It is these issues and the many others that arise over the years that will determine how your marriage fares. Counseling is a good way to broach these subjects in a safe and calm environment.

Sometimes it helps to take a step back and take stock of your relationship, to work out exactly where it is going. Don't think that you are being disloyal by taking time to reflect on whether your current partner is the person that you want to spend the rest of your life with. Rather think of it as being healthy and mature approach. The last thing you want to do is launch into a situation that will eventually lead to disappointment.

When thinking about whether you are ready to get married think about the emotional support you receive from your might be mate. Consider too whether your beliefs on basic issues coincide - like where you will live, how you will live and your future career or family plans.

Getting married simply because your parents are dropping hints about how they can't wait to be grandparents, is unlikely to lead to a firm basis for marriage. A union of two people is just that, a relationship between a man and woman, and for it to work needs many components - love, faith, respect, understanding. Make sure all those elements are in place before you commit and you will be building a solid foundation for many years together.

By J. Brennan

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5 STEPS TO SUCCESSFUL ONLINE DATING

2006-10-25T21:35:00.000-07:00

Online Dating is on the rise. How can you use this dating method to your best advantage with your best foot forward?

There are several dating methods blind dates, classified ads, telephone personals, or even general grocery store pickup line dates or even the popular online dating. Each of the dating methods has its advantages and disadvantages.

Here I am going to focus on online dating. Here are five steps to successful online dating

Step 1) Specify What You Want

Decide what kind of dating or relationship you want to haveI hear you say, "What do you mean? What kind of relationship?. Dating is dating isn't it?". Well what I meant was, to define if you are looking for marriage-minded relationship, or long-term relationship without any marriage plans, or short-term casual dating ranging from few weeks to few months or even intimate encounters for very short-time frames such as days.

This step helps you identify what you are looking for. Why do you have to define what kind of dating or relationship you want? This way you can search for online dating sites based on your decision. There are several sites focusing on marriage minded and long term relationships. And then some, which focus on the relationships focused on casual, short term and intimate in nature

You can search on Internet search engines such as Google or Yahoo by searching with your criteria keywords within quotes such as "marriage minded dating" or "casual dating" or "intimate encounters" etc

Step 2) Select Your Dating Site

Browse each online dating site very carefully by looking at the profiles at each site and reading each profile what they are looking for in their dating partner. Some online dating sites will allow you to browse profiles without registering first. So you can use this opportunity to browse their dating profiles and assess whether that online dating site is your kind of place to hang around

A word of caution is that not all online dating sites are the same. Some are fancy. Some are quality. Some are cheap. Some are feature-rich. Some are free. Some are paid. But what matters most is for you to select the internet dating site based on what you want on Step 1) plus the features you find in each dating site which you feel will get you to whom you want to date

Step 3) Setup Your Amazing Profile

This is one of the key steps which a lot of people forget or don't take the time to do it. Because they feel either they don't have the time to write a detailed profile, or they think they are going to be contacting people anyway so why bother or they think what is the point etc.

Your profile is your first impression you give to a potential partner who maybe browsing that dating site when you have joined that particular dating site. When a potential partner is looking through profiles if they see an empty profile even without a picture, how could they get to know you when you don't even present yourself let alone make ANY impression!?

So a completed profile is a must. A picture adds another thousand words to your profile. If you wish to remain anonymous in the beginning a dating profile without a picture is also ok. You can make up for it in your profile details. But please do have something in your profile without having just a single line like some people, which says "hot guy looking for a hot girl" or "are you cute? Then email me" or "sexy girl wants her cute boy friend" or "just looking"!. I even saw on one dating profile which said "oh I was lost .now I am found. Let me out!". Hmmm. if it is meant to be funny, at least make sure the sense of humor is easily understood.

Step 4) Using the Dating Site Features

As mentioned above, not all online dating sites have the same feature set. Depending on whether each dating site charges per month or whether they are free, what features they offer as part of their program will also differ

Most dating sites will allow you to post your profile for free. When you browse their existing profiles and you find a person you like to contact then most sites will not let you contact them unless you pay. If the site is a free site then they will most likely allow you to contact them.

Contacting the interested person maybe either via a "wink" or an "Instant Messenger" or an internal email via the site. Each of these features will be useful in their own right.

A quick and easy method to show your interest to the person you are interested is to send a "wink"'. This way you don't have to come up with your own 'chat up line' or other creative ways of getting their attention. The dating site will have predefined 'winks' setup so you just select one wink you like and then 'voila!" your desired person will have got your 'wink'.

Sometimes it is better to Instant Message a person especially if you find that person rarely comes "online" and you want to grab their attention when they are online which is quite unusual so you would like to say "hi".

An email to the interested party is better because you can describe yourself better and plant a better 'first impression'. The reason being if you "IM" a person and they reject you at that moment because they don't know much about you, some sites may not allow you to contact that person again even by email. This will depend on the dating website's sophistication of their features. Normally, you can contact that person by Instant Messaging and if they reject your IM, you can still email them.

If the online dating site you signed up is fortunate enough to have chat rooms, you can say hi in the chat room and then take the conversation to a private 'whisper' mode for more privacy to converse with that person in a more private setting

Step 5) Take Your Time To Get To Know

Some people who start on dating online rush into things which they later regret. It is critical that you get to know the other person very well before arranging an offline meeting in person

There are several reasons for this. Firstly, your only interaction with the person you just met on the dating site is thru Instant Message, Chat or Email or a combination of these. Sometimes you may have taken the conversation to a phone conversation by exchanging numbers or calling that person. On these mediums the other person can create quite a 'make believe' scenario and in the 'heat of the moment' of attraction with their features as they describe it, or their voice or their words might blind you from your normal logical thinking.

So it is very important to get to know them from all angles before committing to meet them in person. One of the best ways is to ask questions. Especially open ended questions. Whatever you do, do not assume anything about the other person. This is not fair on you because you are not telling yourself the truth, or the other person because you are misjudging them.

When you are ready to meet, choose a place to meet which you feel comfortable with. Be yourself, and enjoy the dating process. Best of all, have fun getting to know the other person. If it is not fun then it is not worth your time. Good Luck!

By Joshua Danicio
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SIX STEPS TO SIZZLE YOUR ONLINE DATING PROFILE

2006-10-25T21:16:00.000-07:00

"Sell The Sizzle. Not the Steak they say". We are always selling something in life. Whether organising a birthday party and trying to sell a fun time to others and inviting them, selling our selves in terms of our skills to an employer, selling our cookies in a charity event, selling our own products at a flea market or garage sale etc. However, when it comes to looking for a partner in life we don't sell ourselves enough.

I am not saying be arrogant and conceited. I am saying to be assertive and show your strong points. Sell your sizzle! You certainly have it. We all have it. We all have certain talents we are born with whether we like to accept it or not.

One of the sad things which happen in online dating is that when anyone is single and lonely, they sometimes are not in a best state of mind to think of the strong points about themselves due to past negative associations from their past relationships or just simply have a low self-esteem. Not all but some of us do this. We end up selling ourselves short and settling with anyone who walks into our life

That's quite ok. What is not ok is to continue to NOT show your positive points when looking for a partner. So right now we are going to discuss how we can make our online dating profile shine with pride and makes us an attractive potential target for a partner who is suitable for us and looking at our online dating profile

Step 1) Have a completed profile

Ok this is the most obvious step, but some people completely ignore this step altogether. They think they are going to be doing the searching on the online dating site so they don't really have to have their profile completed.

This is one of the key steps which a lot of people forget or don't take the time to do it. Because they feel either they don't have the time to write a detailed profile, or they think they are going to be contacting people anyway so why bother or they think what is the point etc.

Your profile is your first impression you give to a potential partner who maybe browsing that dating site when you have joined that particular dating site. When a potential partner is looking through profiles if they see an empty profile even without a picture, how could they get to know you when you don't even present yourself let alone make ANY impression!?

But please do have something in your profile without having just a single line like some people, which says "hot guy looking for a hot girl" or "are you cute? Then email me" or "sexy girl wants her cute boy friend" or "just looking"!

Step 2) Highlight your desires

In your profile details define what kind of person you are looking for. When your potential partner is reading your profile you want them to contact you by winking or sending you an Instant Message or by emailing you via the online dating site. You don't want them to hit the 'next' button. You want them to hit the "Contact This Person" button.

Step 3) Avoid Incompatible partners

The same logic for attracting your compatible partner applies when we are talking about incompatible partners. By mentioning your requirements as in step 2) applies you are writing whom you are looking for at least in a broader sense. If you have a deal breaker rule which you would never break such as if you would never date a smoker, then please mention it in your profile. This way, the person looking at your profile who is a smoker can hit the 'next' button saving you and their time by not contacting you.

By making your profile only attractive to those whom you want to be attracted to you, you are only focusing your attention on those potential partners and making your profile sizzle to the right personThis way you don't have to sift through 20 partners who contact you to find 2 potential dating partners.

Step 4) Add the best photo you have of yourself

We all heard of making the best first impression. Why not take this concept to your online dating? When we go on our first date with someone, wouldn't we try to look our best to impress our date? Why not use the same concept when setting up our own dating profile?

It is an obvious saying that a picture is equal to a thousand words. If you are looking for a long-term relationship, try to match your picture to say what you want it to say about yourself in the best light possible to your potential partner. For example: if you are looking for long-term marriage minded relationship on your online dating site, suggestion is not to post a nude photo of yourself else you will attract all kinds of unwanted short-term dating bed hoppers.

Step 5) Highlight some of your strong interests

It is always great to find someone on an online dating site who has most of your passions and interests at heart. They don't always have to match 100% with your interests. They can have their own exclusive interests too. But it is great to have some overlapping interests.

By highlighting your interests you will attract a potential partner with those interests. This is obvious but has to be said as it is amazing how many people ignore this important step.
A potential partner can put together a mental picture of you with your interests and this will make them want to share those common interests and activities with you. They say we seek people who are like us. If you go to a mountain climbing club field trip or a yoga meditation boot camp you will know what I mean!

Step 6) Show Off Your Talents

We know our strong points and talents. But does a potential dating partner who is looking at your profile for the first time know those talents? So spell it out. If you make an amazing pie, say it. If you make the your city's most yummiest soup say it. If you give the world's best body massage say it. If you sing like Celine Dion say it. If you are sensitive say it.

What does your talent got to do with sizzling your profile? If someone loves chocolate ice cream and you describe to them, a yummy chocolate flavoured smooth ice cream filled with pistachio nuts some chunks of chocolate cause some mouth watering? Well if someone loves the traits of talents you happen to have and if you don't spell it out how could you sizzle yourself and sell yourself?

So please take the above steps when decide to sizzle your online dating profile. Happy Dating!

MISCOMMUNICATION - ROOT CAUSE OF PROBLEM?

2006-10-25T21:14:00.001-07:00

People of two opposing ideas can stir up argumentsand fights. It's that situation when one thinkshe has the right concept while the other one alsobelieves he has the proper notion. Both of themwould try to outsmart each other until one claimsvictory.

Here's an actual example.

My spouse would sometimes buy me signatureclothing. When my Mom founds out how much it costs,she would advise us to budget our money and just buythe affordable ones.

A problem occurs when my spouse thinks that her effortto give me the best was unappreciated. Mom, onthe other hand, would think that my spouse is sucha spender.

There's a conflict with their beliefs. No twopeople are exactly alike. We are totally unique;not only physically, but mentally and emotionallyas well.

There will be many times when your opinion will notcorrespond with that of another. So how can peopleprevent this kind of conflict from occurring?

Communication is the key to overcome doubts andmisunderstandings.

You should let other people know what's in your mind.Don't keep them guessing.

There was a story about two couples who were filinga divorce. After the lawyer have spoken to themboth, he found out that the root cause of all theirproblems was due to miscommunication.

Here's one of the couple's problems.

The man filing the divorce said that he just hatedthe breakfast meal that his wife often prepared forhim. On the other hand, the wife said that she'sonly preparing the meal because she thought it washer husband's favorite. But she never liked cookingit because it's very difficult to prepare.

See? If only one of them took the initiative tospeak out what's in his or her mind, then thatparticular dilemma would be over.

Now why would people prefer to keep their complaintsand criticisms to themselves? What's holding themback?

It's because they do not want to be rejected. Most,people, if not all, would like to be accepted and tobe perceived as likeable in the eyes of others.

So can you get your message across without hurtingtheir feelings?

Substitute negative statements with positive ones.

Instead of saying "You don't understand," say "Letme explain." Instead of remarking "You're wrong,"say "Permit me to clarify." Instead of stating"You failed to say," just mention "Perhaps this wasnot stated."

There are certain words that affect a person morenegatively in comparison with other words that havethe same meaning.

Nothing could be more pleasing to the ear thanhearing someone else say that you are right. Inthis case, be prepared to let other people know thatyou respect their opinions. You may add your commentsat the end, but acknowledge them first.

Say:You're right, although ...Great suggestion, however ...I agree with your opinion, however ...I would feel the same way if I were you, although ...I understand your situation, however ...
Reassure your counterparts that the decision made willbenefit both parties. People need to feel that theyhave made the right choice.

Communication is a gift. Use it wisely for everyone'sadvantage.

By Friedrich Asen
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LEARN WHY UNDERSTANDING THE NEED FOR BUILDING RELATIONSHIPS IS IMPORTANT

2006-10-25T20:47:00.000-07:00

All kinds of relationships are perceived to require extra effort to maintain. However, a relationship can also be something that can provide security, be long lasting, and withstand trials.

Building an effective and lasting relationship is a necessity for several reasons. In a group or organization, the well being of the people depends on how efficient that particular group or organization works. The group or organization is also dependent on how the members work well with management.

An ineffective group or organization is a source of frustration for an individual. Other groups or organizations ask so much from the members; that sometimes the members do not have life outside the walls of the area where they work. These members sacrifice other aspects of their lives just to meet deadlines. This scenario presents a strain in relationships that can lead to a breakdown. Society is defined as a web of associations. These relationships require all parties to work and contribute in order to achieve a common goal. The presence of cooperation and respect within a group or across organizations can make the society work better.

The effort to understand the other party's concern and position constitutes an effective and efficient relationship. This can be done by simply asking them what they want and listening to what they have to say. When this is done, the other party would feel the importance accorded to them.

Effective and efficient relationships require open expression of their feelings and positions on all matters pertinent on the relationship. It is not a good practice to just assume that the other party understands your needs.

Respect is the key to relationship. You show respect by listening, understanding their concerns, and acknowledging their efforts. Efficient relationships cannot exist in an environment where people form quick judgements based on unfounded facts and prejudice. Respect is the very foundation for a great relationship. This also means respecting your self and others.

Another important practice is to directly talk to the concerned party in order to settle differences. They should work towards a win-win solution for both parties.

This can be achieved when at least one party acknowledges the importance of the relationship. That group would exert time and effort to understand and deal with the other party's concern to get it out of the way.

Concerned groups can have informal discussions to bring out issues and concerns. They would also feel more relaxed and have time to think more clearly. When parties fail to express whatever is on their mind, it can get in the way of building an effective relationship.

Parties should be aware that certain things exist naturally, but some of these can be controlled. One example is a person's tendency to engage in stereotyping, blaming others for strained relationships, disregarding other part's feelings, and setting unclear objectives.

Relationships are important to everyone. Everyone is connected, very much like the saying "No man is an island".

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HOW TO STOP FIGHTING WITH YOUR PARTNER TODAY

2006-10-25T20:45:00.001-07:00

Author: Cucan Pemo

It’s fair to say that most people avoid contact whenever they are faced with it – especially in a relationship. Conflict and arguments make us feel weak and can cause us to feel badly about ourselves and our lives. If you find that you and your partner are constantly fighting, and you don’t know what you do about it, maybe these tips will be able to help.

What are you fighting for?

There may be times when it seems like you’re fighting about everything – from the litter box to the bills, the way someone snores to how they put the towel on the floor after a shower. But what you might want to start to recognize is that not all fights are actually about anything important at all – they’re merely symbols of something larger. And it’s that larger thing that you need to tackle in order to stop the fighting and arguing.

But how do you get to this larger issue? First of all, there are many psychological techniques that can help you, so there’s no need to become frustrated before you even start. Some couples are able to sit down and talk about what frustrates them, but for those that can not, writing is an amazingly effective way to get your feelings out. What you can do is simply take five minutes to write until you run out of things to say. While you might not think that you can write for that long, you’ll be surprised what happens once you get started. This free writing exercise allows your mind to switch off and allows the censors to be quiet so that you can release your real feelings about what is happening in your relationship.

Every day help

You may also want to try this exercise every morning when you first wake up. By writing down everything that is on your mind, you will keep it from becoming too ‘full’ and confused. Many people find that this exercise not only allows them to be calmer in their relationship, but that they can also find solutions to ongoing problems that come up. This is a long term tool that works for many couples.

Right now

If you want to diffuse your fighting today, you can do several things. First of all, it helps to step outside of your anger and your frustration by realizing what is really happening. Talk about the ‘source’ of your fighting as though it were happening to someone else. This might mean that you start to refer to each other in the third person (he or she) in order to fully separate yourself from the emotions that are occurring. You might also want to start talking in hushed tones to calm down your body physically so that your mind responds as well. It’s hard to be upset when you’re talking softly.

What are you getting out of fighting?

Another thing that you will want to consider is whether or not you’re rewarding the other person for fighting with you, or if they are rewarding you. We only do things that bring us some sort of satisfaction, so what is the reward of all of your fighting? Think about what happens immediately after a fight. Do you head to the bedroom as a sort of reward for the fight being over? Do you talk lovingly to each other or go out and reward your selves in some other manner?

When you start to realize that pattern of your fighting, you might start to see that you are actually allowing it to continue to happen. Instead of making it something that isn’t good for your relationship, you’re creating the connection that if you fight, you will get something in return. To effectively stop the fighting and start uncovering what the source is, you need to stop rewarding the fighting itself. After a fight, you shouldn’t do anything that makes it rewarding. Sit with each other, but try not to create any sort of reward unless you actually work through the problem that you have fought about.

Fighting isn’t something that you can entirely avoid, but it is a signal that you should look more closely at your relationship and how you are managing it. By taking the time to write out your feelings and then discussing problems calmly, you won’t have to start yelling in order to feel heard.

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HOW TO USE SEQUENCE TO PERSUADE ANYONE

2006-10-25T20:40:00.001-07:00

Foot in the door

One of the most common uses of sequence in persuasion is the idea of foot in the door. In this technique, you will start by getting someone to agree with something small and then slowly build up to something bigger. You might use the example of a child that wants something from their parents. They start by asking for only a dollar, and then they ask for more money, a ride, as well as permission to sleep at someone’s house. This method works because it creates a bond between the two people that are talking to each other. Because they have agreed on the first step, they are more likely to be able to agree in the second request.

In terms of your relationships, this technique works well when you’re unable to understand each other’s permission. What you can do is see if you can agree on smaller parts of each other’s arguments and then slowly build up to understanding and agreement.

Door in the face

Another common persuasion method that involves sequence is the idea of door in the face. This is much different from foot in the door as it uses the idea of not agreeing or having something that one person wants, but the technique creates a need for them to agree anyways. A good example of this is a great vacation package with everything that you want in it – good location, good accommodations, and a low price. You’re already emotionally invested in it, so when the travel agent tells you that the location isn’t the best one that there is, unlike the original offer, but since you’re still thinking of the first plan, you take the package anyways.

In your relationships, you can use this technique to help create a better housekeeping system in which you take on more of the burden of the chores, though your partner will have to do the harder ones.

Leading to the benefits

You can also use a sales technique to help in your relationship. By giving your partner more and more benefits in a discussion, you will create an attractive offer for them to comply with. For example, you can talk about chores (once again) in terms of what your partner will do and what you will do in exchange. When you create a large list of things that you will do, it seems like your partner is getting more out of the ‘deal.’ However, this list doesn’t have to be comparable so long as it seems longer and thus more valuable.

Bait and switch

A common persuasion technique that is sometimes seen in newer relationships is the idea of bait and switch. By providing an example of how it will be to date each other, having a great time, and really enjoying each other’s company, a partner can think that they have a good idea of what your relationship might be like. But the trick comes when the dating actually begins and the relationship changes into something completely different. When one partner says that they will be one way and doesn’t follow through, it’s bating them and then switching the outcome.
Make it better than it is

Another way to create an influence on someone else is to show them all of the benefits of the outcome. This will create an attachment between the person and the action, but then you will change the steps that it will take to get there. While this changes the original offer, the person is so wrapped up in what they will eventually get that they don’t mind the change. This is often seen in travel agencies as well when the agent offers a wonderful vacation, but then concedes that the price is a lot higher than it was at first. The traveler already sees the beaches of Hawaii and just focuses on that.

By Cucan Pemo
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THE 7 SECRET THINGS THAT HELP PERSUASIVE TECHNIQUES WORK

2006-10-25T20:33:00.000-07:00

When you want to get your point across to someone, you need more than just the right words or the right methodologies. What you need are the secrets that separate the successful from the not so successful. Here are seven such secrets that you can use today.
Start in the positive

While you might not believe that your persuasion is going to work with your partner or business associate, you should try. When you start to change your mindset of the outcome, it can produce small changes in the way that you present your case that will make the difference. Try to think about your conversation all the way through to the end – and see yourself making your point clearly and strongly. When and if the conversation starts to veer into negative thinking, try to reverse the language to be more positive. This keeps everyone in the positive mindset.

Plan ahead

Those that are pros in persuasion always take the time to plan ahead. They realize that since they only know their side of the conversation, they need to be ready for whatever the other side is offering. Taking the time to research their position, its weaknesses, and its strengths helps in any form of persuasion. Knowing what you may have to convince someone of is the best way to ensure that you will be able to persuade someone. Try to think of questions that they might ask and points that might cause contention.

Look at the professionals

There are hundreds of persuasion resources available for you to use – books, audio tapes, classes, Internet sites, etc. But are you taking advantage of them? When you start to look at the professionals, you may be able to see what makes them so good at persuasion and how you can use that to your advantage. Try to take a class in sales in order to get a non-emotional viewpoint of persuasion as well as learn how to use the skills in your current job – even if you’re not in sales.

Put yourself in the other’s shoes

One of the best ways to be sure that you’re considering all of the sides of a subject is to see what the other person will see. Try to consider what they might find wrong with your logic as well as what they might find right about it. If you start to consider their attitudes and motivations, you will start to be able to persuade them with this information. If you’re having troubles finding out what the other person believes, it’s best to just ask them in order to understand them more fully.

The right place

When you want to persuade someone into anything, you need to choose the right location. Too many times people think that where you talk isn’t as important as what you are talking about – and while this is partly true, if you’re already put on the defensive by the location, you certainly won’t have a receptive audience. What you want to do is choose a location that is neutral for the both of you – somewhere public that is also private is best. This keeps tempers even and creates a time limitation for your conversation.

Stay on track

If you want to genuinely have someone see your side of a situation, you need to make sure that this is the only topic that you are discussing. Sometimes when someone else does not agree with you, but doesn’t want to say anything, they will try to veer from the subject. You need to be sure to gently bring them back to the topic so that they have to face the conversation at hand.
Try to make it work for both of you

Persuasion really isn’t about someone winning or losing the conversation – it’s about coming to an understanding about something so that both people get something from the conversation. In order to make persuasion work, you need to acknowledge each other’s needs and how to properly address them, continuing the conversation until everyone is happy.

Realize that persuasion only works if you’re willing to create a level playing field upon which everyone’s ideas and feelings are acknowledged – especially when you’re in a relationship. You both want to work things out to your advantage, right?

By Cucan Pemo
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INFIDELITY HELPS FOR A CHEATING SPOUSE

2006-10-25T20:30:00.001-07:00

Whether you call it cheating, unfaithfulness, adultery, an affair, or marital infidelity, it causes devastating pain and major crises in marriages. Surprisingly, half of marriages survive infidelity and some even get better. Infidelity spurs 50% of couples who experience it to reassess their marriages and make changes, often with the help of counselors. About 15% of wives and 25% of husbands cheat.

Causes of Infidelity

The causes of infidelity are numerous and can be simple or complicated. Affairs occur in both happy and unhappy marriages. Usually, both spouses are responsible for the situation. The causes of infidelity include: a mid-life or pre-midlife crisis, low self-esteem, lack of love and attention given to a spouse, anger, boredom, marrying too young, peer pressure, the existence of an opportunity, disappointment in the marriage, sex addiction, as a way to leave the marriage, and even family expectations!

Types of Affairs

Sometimes adultery is due to an addiction to sex or romance. A new relationship provides passion, excitement, danger, sexual highs, romance, and either greater self-esteem or shame.

Some affairs are due to men who believe that extramarital relationships are something they are entitled to by gender. There is little or no guilt felt by these husbands and their birth families sometimes condone their behavior. There may be peer pressure as well.

Other unfaithful spouses are driven by mid-life crisis (i.e.; fear of aging), anger toward the spouse for real or imagined wrongs, boredom, or disappointment in the marriage or the problems of living. These affairs often happen only if an opportunity presents itself.

The newest type of infidelity is one in which the participants weren’t searching for an affair, but got involved in a friendship at work or on the Internet that turned into an affair. This type of relationship includes emotional intimacy, secrecy and lying, and sexual feelings and actions. There may be peer (societal) pressure to participate in this type of affair as well.

The most serious type of affair is the one in which a married partner falls in love with someone outside the marriage, either unwittingly or as an excuse for leaving. This type of infidelity causes the most destruction of marriages.

Consequences of Infidelity

The consequences of infidelity include: divorce, depression, loss of trust, persistent anxiety, and an overwhelming feeling of loss. Many innocent spouses experience symptoms similar to post-traumatic stress disorder. Consequences of infidelity may also encompass obsessive thoughts about the details of the infidelity, suspiciously watching for indications of infidelity, “fight or flight” symptoms, anger and accusations, and flashbacks.

Results of Infidelity

After infidelity occurs, the partners must decide whether to save the marriage or separate and divorce. Each spouse may want a different outcome. Counselors and psychologists will work with couples to assist them in making a decision and implementing it. Negative emotions and symptoms must be addressed and a “safety zone” established. An atmosphere of honesty must be established with the spouse, while all contact with the partner in the affair must be stopped. The story of the affair must be told and its impact on the marriage addressed. Planning for the future of the marriage leads to healing, and, hopefully, forgiveness. Failing that, a divorce will take place.

If a marriage survives infidelity, it will become stronger and centered on the couple, not just on children; the dangers and temptations of infidelity are understood and addressed in order to avoid it; and the couple develops trust, renewed commitment, and shared responsibility for the ongoing success of the marriage.

By Ed Tal

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